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Am I looking to far into things? - February 3rd 2009, 09:29 PM

Background: Early last month I tried to kill myself and luckily my boyfriend saved my life. He was very supportive and said that he would never let what happened affect how he feels about me.

Current: My boyfriend and I have been fighting a bit lately because of family related issues and just general grumpiness (normally these fights happen late at night). Sometimes during the fights he would bring up the fact that I tried to kill myself and he had to run in and be the rescuer. Well, today has been the first day in about a week that we haven't fought at all. And it's been amazing to not be fighting and to finally just be us again without any of the mean words or stupid thoughts going on. Yet, I feel like since we started fighting his feelings for me have changed or maybe they've changed since I tried to kill myself. I feel like we're not even close to being on the same page and that he feels less for me now than before. Maybe it's just us recovering from all of the fighting and giving ourselves a little bit of room to heal. Yet, I can't help wondering if the incident back in January was too much for him and that he can never see me the same again.

Am I just reading way too much into the situation? Or should I legitimately be worried?
   
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Re: Am I looking to far into things? - February 3rd 2009, 10:59 PM

I think you may be reading too much into it. If you are really that worried try talking to him. Just tell him you don't want to fight about it you just want to voice your feelings and hear his side. It will help ease all the problems you are feeling and it may help him as well.
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Re: Am I looking to far into things? - February 3rd 2009, 11:02 PM

Talk to him about it. Communication is the key to every relationship working. Let him know how you feel without arguing about it.


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Re: Am I looking to far into things? - February 4th 2009, 06:09 AM

it sounds like he's a good guy if he's there to support you through your difficult time. a suicide attempt can be a very traumatic experience for loved ones, and they often take a little time to get things back together afterwards. try not to blame yourself for the arguing though. you need to talk to him about how you're feeling and tell him that you're worried. he's your boyfriend, he should care about how you feel.


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Re: Am I looking to far into things? - February 4th 2009, 07:13 AM

He might be a bit detached to you. (Unintentionally)
After something like that happens, the people who are closest to you will feel a sense of betrayal...
He probably is detaching himself from you subconsciously in order to protect himself (as much as he can without breaking off with you) from the pain that losing you would cause.

Things such as these are real hard hits in any relationship.
Your relationship will take time to recover.


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