I need some comfort i feel awful

[Lu82]

I talked to this guy for more than 7 months, at first he used to be a jerk to me. But as our bond grew we became "friends" and he told me he would change for me.See he is in the Military and he explain to me he wasent good at expressing his emotions, he had that tough attitude. He told me his problems and i told him mine, i told him i had depression he totally understood becuase he used to suffer from depression too we pretty much had things in common, were both capricorns like the same music etc etc.Two months after we met he asked me out but we never set up a day or anything.He kept on telling me to be more than friends. but i didnt know how to react to that. about two weeks ago he asked me to go to dinner with him, he told me he was going to find a place, But a week ago he just didnt show up to work (i work with him).he left without saying goodbye to anyone not even me, people have call him but he doesnt answer, somebody even call his mom but she doesnt answer either. t I have his phone number and been dying to call him because i do care for him, but i just dont have the guts to do it, because i dont think he ever care for me
My cousin says he was just playing with me that he only wanted to have sex with me or something and i Feel betrayed and so
stupid right now.Im lost.

[emoticon]

personally i realized to always go with my feelings. and i think you should ditch him. yeah you two might have had a good "start" but that's not enough. he disappeared. don't worry about it. if you don't think he'll ever care for you. then go with that feeling and drop him from your mind. you deserve better then how he's treating you.

[Pheonix]

Well, nobody knows WHY he disappeared, do they? Then why is your friend automatically assuming he ditched you? I know many people like to (well tend to) assume the worst, so they can be prepared and might possibly not get hurt as much if it happens, but does anybody know for sure? It doesn't sound like it. A whole number of things could have happened that are beyond his control. He is in the military. What that might mean, I don't know, but I think he deserves a chance. Automatically assuming he rejected you is hurtful to him for not trusting him AT ALL and to you for thinking a guy would treat you that way only and there isn't any other option. It might make you think you're not worth it cause you think he feels that way, but has anybody asked him? I say wait to hear his side from his own mouth before trying to read minds. Give him a call, leave him a message if he doesn't answer and let it be. If he's not coming back, that isn't your fault. At least you tried. Maybe ask him to call you if he'd like to talk and leave it there. I say try back a few days later one more time, in case something happens to your message. After that, it's probably best to let go, but you'll never know unless you ask, will you? Why work up a whole mess in your head when it's just easier to ask?

[Lu82]

He once left to training for 4 weeks, but told me he was coming back and he did, he always told me if he was going to miss days, but this time is different