I just want him to know but I can't tell him.

[Unsure]

I really like this guy I used to work with and I really think he might like me too. All I want is for him to know I like him, but the doubtful side of me just won't let me tell him. What if he doesn't like me back like all the other guys? What if telling him totally ruins our friendship? I have been hinting for months, he seems interested but hasn't asked me out for real. He did ask me to a movie but we ended up inviting friends (he did it first). Since then he has been hard to read, sometimes he seems really interested and then not. I don't know what to do.

[Jaguar]

Telling someone you like them isn't going to ruin a friendship. And what if you dated and decided you didn't want to do that. No harm done. Just go back to being friends. It happens all the time.

Texting is a great way. It's ok to tell somebody you like them and would they like to hang at the mall or something. Not a real date, just a social occasion.

[Unsure]

I told a friend I liked him a couple years ago. He stopped talking to me. It has turned out fine other times but I'm still afraid. 90 percent of me thinks it would work out in this situation but the other 10 percent is all it takes to scare me into not telling him. Because I have been 90 percent sure before, and it did not go well.

[jelli1224]

Hey, I've been there too. It can be a hard place to be. You really like them and want to tell them yet at the same time you dont want to tell him. Well in your case i would say go for it! I think he likes you and if you like him too i think you should try it.

[ShimmeringFaerie]

Most people aren't going to stop talking to you just because you like them. The ones who do aren't really worth it if they are willing to throw away a great friendship for some stupid reason. I had a huge crush on one of my friends and told him a couple of times over the years, and we are still friends, so I wouldn't worry about that just because of one guy.

I don't know if this guy likes you or not, but the only way to find out is by asking.

[Unsure]

But how? I wish I could do it in person but I don't know when I will see him in person again and I always lose my nerve in person. I don't want to just randomly text or message him "oh hey btw i really like you." There has to be a way to lead up to it but I can't think of anything. Oh and I want it to be clear I am asking him on a date, not just hanging out as friends.

[Katara]

To me it sounds like he wanted some validation from you when he asked you to the movies, I mean I don't know the whole story but if I asked someone out and they didn't have much reaction, or they seemed nervous about it I would probably ask someone else to go in case the nervousness meant they didn't like me but didn't want to hurt me... that's probably really paranoid :P

[Unsure]

I made sure he knew I wanted to go, lots of smiles, brought it up a couple times before we officially picked a day to go. It was almost like he panicked on the day of and invited a friend, but I dunno, maybe he just wanted to hang out as friends in the first place.

[Unsure]

Well I talked to him tonight. I said "do you wanna go out sometime?" he said "like when?" i said "its up to you, you are the only one with a schedule really " he said "i get my work schedule tuesday, i will let you know when i'm free. i would like to go do something " ...