Another Teenage Drama?

[xoxo_ciao]

So my best friend is in love with me. I've known for a while that he liked me as more than a friend...but two nights ago, he said "love" as more than a friend for the first time. This is the person that knows me better than anyone else and he would never do anything to hurt our friendship which is why I know I have nothing to worry about...like him resenting me for the fact that I still won't return the feeling.

We were talking and I felt bad for something...so I asked, "Have I ever told you that I'm scared of any kind of commitment? I don't even understand why someone would want to get married, because how can two people really love each other and put up with each other for so long?" He said, "No, but I could have guessed....You're not very good at opening yourself up when there's a possibility of things not going well." He's the only person that understands why I feel that way and the only person besides my other best friend (I only have two) that I would have told.

I think that if I wasn't such a coward I'd be able to truthfully tell him that I love him more than he knows.

I must, because knowing he feels that way for me that much...makes me really happy.

I guess there's a whole lot more to this story, but I don't want to bore everyone with useless details.

[Age of Ignorance]

Hello Stella.

First off, let me just say that I've been in a similar situation - and after a while, I realised the reason I was happy was because I loved the attention, not because I returned her feelings. However, you could be different and have those exact feelings that I'd mistaken my happiness for - not disputing that fact.

Secondly, I'm not quite sure what you're trying to ask of us, but there's probably a multitude of ways we could try to help. In all honesty, when a guy does tell their best friend that he has more feelings for them than just best friends can work three ways: one, the situation between you two can get really awkward until one of you confronts the other and attempts to get rid of that awkwardness with a head on conversation; two, something more could spark up out of you two and you could be more than what you are now - a relationship, maybe? and number three, you two will just go back to being normal straight away and you'll both just enjoy and flirt your way to something more eventually - but that's for fate to decide.

In any way, I wish you good luck. (Y)

And one more thing - you're not a coward; even the strongest and most courageous people have trouble talking about their feelings, it just takes time - it'll happen eventually, you just gotta keep it tipped in your favour.

(L)

[losing touch.]

Hey, don't worry about not being able to open up to people very easily, i'm exactly the same way, and i actually see it as a good thing sometimes. anyway, it's good that you have this guy who cares about you so much and seems to really understand you. relationships with best friends can be awkward, i'm not gunna lie. it often ends badly because if you break up the friendship just isn't the same sometimes. thats probably whats making you unsure about whether to pursuit the relationship?.
you're not a coward for being nervous about whether/how to let him know your feelings. especially when you yourself can be confused about how you feel sometimes. theres a fine line between loving someone as a best friends and loving someone as more than that, and it can often be very difficult to distinguish.

[liketheangel]

ive had almost the exact same situation
after dating i found both of us were confusing alot of lvoe for a friend. with a more physical love.
he sounds like a great friend. and unless your sure you want to get into something more
id leave it how it is better to have a strong friendship rather then a failed relationship.
lthough it sounds like you would get through it.. as me and my friend did