Please Help.. Majorly complicated.

[SufferingAlone]

right ive posted before about me and a guy that is 42. Im 19 btw.
anyway.. we slept together about a month ago.. and have been talking and stuff ever since. we can get quite dirty when we talk sometimes.
i know it might sound wrong and stuff that we are like this. when we started out it was literally just a bit of fun. then we had sex and i thought it was just fun. now im starting to get feelings for him. hes married but sperated and has a 9 year old child. the thing is.. some of the things he says to me makes me think he has feelings for me too? he always asks if im ok and checks everythings okay. im just so confused.
my question is.. if it was just sex would he kiss me, kiss my neck etc?
i have no idea if he feels the same so my head is all over the place atm.

please tell me your thoughts.. thankyou :] xx

[MacGuffin]

I personally think that such an extreme age and maturity difference would provide more challenges in navigating a relationship, and generally discourage it, but have seen it done before. Its just that its so much harder to relate to one another's life stages and to wade through all that communication to make it work. But there is nothing "wrong" with you for liking/sleeping with an older man as long as you are of legal age. This is a choice you are equipped to make, and just because its unorthodox does not mean its wrong.

From what you have said here, there is nothing that stands out to me that he may have feelings for you. All of the above is not necessarily behavior that denotes growing romantic emotions, although it may denote growing feelings of affection for you in general as a valued person in his life.

My question is first what parameters you established for what kind of relationship you would have. Was it no strings attached sex only? Was there room left over for something to happen "if" things went in the right direction? It makes a difference, because that will tell you where he is at. It likely hasnt changed in a month. You could speak to him about it if youre really confused and want to know. Just be sure to do it in a way that wont frighten the man off. However, I would observe him further before bringing that conversation up, to see whether its a risk you want to take. But its probably one you will have to take eventually, lest your feelings grow so much you begin to resent the one-sided nature of your relationship.