Computer Love

[bigwheel]

Hi all,

I just posted a poem about this in the self expression section. You can check & comment it if you wish; click here


Well i got speaking to a girl today online. She's from America, she's 15 at the moment, i'm 20 (I know it probably sounds awful, trust me, i'd have thought the same if i was younger reading this). But it's not like i want her in a sexual way.

We just get on so well. We haven't stopped speaking for HOURS. She's literally just gone out to the mall with her friend, but she was saying how she only has 1-2 friends and doesn't have alot of self confidence etc (Although saying that, she did have a crazy but cool fashion sense). I guess she's an
'emo' or 'scene' kind of chick, but it doesn't make a difference to me, she's awesome.

There's not really much more to say. I wonder if one time we could meet up? It'd be so cool. I'd have to get a pic of us together for you guys (if anyone cares).

Here's a pic she did for me earlier, i'm sure she wouldn't mind me putting this up;

[MacGuffin]

You have spoken for one day, and this girl is already telling you she loves you? While its nice to have found someone you get along well with, a kindred spirit if you will, it sounds like both of you are moving way too fast with this. Day one is not the day to be wondering if you could meet up, or to tell someone you love them. I can appreciate how tempting it can be if one or both of you are very lonely, but its just not a healthy way to start any kind of relationship.

Also, the age difference really could be a problem. Even if you arent being sexual with her, or what you perceive as sexual, you have to be super careful. Anything that could even be perceived as sexual could get you in huge trouble. I generally think such an age difference is not a good idea based on maturity factors (and you cant know someone after one day of talking to them) in person, let alone over the internet where so much miscommunication is apt to happen.

Basically, be careful and slow down. Not to sound old-fashioned, but you dont know this girl at all. She could be not being truthful about who she is as a person; the internet is a great place to reinvent yourself. Especially if you are lonely. Just be on your guard, and really, really slow down if youre going to proceed with this.

[bigwheel]

thanks for the advice, Superstar, i guess you're right. I think we probably both just thought; wow, we're so alike and moved fast.

I'll slow it right down.

Thanks

[GaryOak]

You might want to give it a little more time. Sure you guys have a lot in common, but that's just the tip of the iceberg as they say. Just keep talking to her and find out more about her. Take things slow and Plus she's in another country so wait a little bit before you go and visit her and make sure that she really is that important to you, because going over there and finally realizing that she isn't right for you might be a bit of a problem.