How the Hell Do You Deal?

[PlayingPretend]

I'm in a long-distance relationship - I'm in California, and he's in England - and things are complicated. Texting is okay, and sometimes we'll text throughout the day, but a) it's generally not very many and b) even when we're holding an entire conversation through text, I only get 100 through AT&T, so it gets to be a fairly expensive habit. I've considered e-mails or Facebook, but he hasn't responded to my past 2 or 3 Facebook e-mails, and I assume it's because he's busy; I don't want to bother him about it because I don't want to seem demanding. We do talk every night. I did bring up how hurtful it was that we didn't get to talk every night anymore, so he's buckled down and actually followed through on doing so, which means the absolute world to me, but it's only 30min to an hour. When we have hour long conversations, I'm a bit more relaxed about things, but it's when we only have half hour conversations that I have a hard time dealing with it. I'm not even sure why. I know he loves me. I know he misses me. And I am happy that he spends more time going out since he's moved... but it's so difficult when before he moved, he seemed to have all the time for me in the world; it's made me resent the fact he moved at all, which I realise is selfish and that's why I haven't demanded anything more of him. And I'm not inquiring about ways I can convince him to spend more time with me... I'm simply wondering if anyone's been in this situation before, what did you do to work through it? Or if you're in a LDR, how do you deal with not always being able to talk to your partner?

[Eljoria]

Wow, I've gone through that situation. Maybe you should consider talking to him PIECE BY PIECE, I finally gotten to talk to him as I thought things through of how I do this or that and what the consequences. In fact I've never met my ex boyfriend ever and even we got in relationship, he was living in Japan and like I had the same problem but I realised that it's not going anywhere so I confronted him and he understood. You should too.

I'm here if you need me. Just pm me.

[Magic.]

Technically I'm not with my ex, but we only split because he moved to Australia, so we still talk like we're together if that makes sense ...
We're both finding the whole thing really hard not seeing each other, but the saviour for us has been Skype. It's free so we can chat on webcam for hours with no big bills. I'd recommend it to anyone in a LDR, because you can see the person and talk, to no expense!! Just as a side note I think it's incredible being able to do a LDR, I couldn't even face trying it ... stick to that trust and love and you'll pull through

[PlayingPretend]

@ Eljoria... You implied that I might consider ending things with my boyfriend, and that's not how I want to handle the situation. I'm in love with him, he's in love with me, we're very happy together. It's getting used to the LDR that's the problem. It's epsecially hard considering I met him... so I've had a taste of what it'd be like if he lived here or I lived there. I miss him more now than I ever have, simply because I realise what I am missing.

@ Magic... We use Skype occasionally. The only problem is that he's not at his computer often, which is the issue with his not being able to come on MSN other than on his mobile. We use Skype mobile, but I really miss the webcam aspect of it. I, quite obviously, love seeing my boyfriend. We do talk daily, over the phone most of the time, so it's not the issue of what saves our relationship/what doesn't etc. etc. It's more how do I deal going from hanging around someone all the time (from when he was here) to actually needing to budget my time with him...