Female Advice Preferred: some questions

[ThrashAttack]

Im a nice Guy, im kind and caring, there isent really a bad bone in my body. Anyway ive been looking for a Gf for ages and have had ZERO luck finding one. I do not know a single Girl (seriously), mainly becouse all the ones i knew from school have long gone there own ways since i got my gcse results (which was way back in 2007). Ive basicly became a recluse in my own Home.

Ive always had no courage to talk to Girls, im too shy and i have bad self esteem isues, people i know have to keep going onto me about doing stuff for your self. I know i have some potental to be a good bf to some lucky Girl out there but i have this feeling in my heart that i may never find that Girl to love and think of as my own. It really does suck.

Anyway i have a few questions:

1. Im really into to Music

2. Im a casual/hardcore Gamer

3. I dont really think im attractive at all (check my picture album on my profile)

4. Im thoughtfall to other people

Sorry if i have been rambling on but i really need some help

[Magic.]

Best way to get a gf (or bf) in my experience is not to look for one ... I know that sounds odd, but if you try and force a relationship it tends not to work so well. The best seem to come when you just meet someone randomly. Like I've had three long term relationships and all of them were from meeting someone randomly through friends. I have massively low self esteem so I do get where you're coming from.
Try and go out with some friends ... just to the pub or something, or if you're into music gigs? Don't try and look for someone, just be yourself as much as you can.
As for the gaming and stuff, I know plenty of girls who are into gamers and are gamers themselves so don't worry!!!

[Lu82]

Hi Will.
First of all i understand how you feel about the self-esteem issue i been there. But thats one of the main things you need to try to change, try to be more open to girls, feel more confident about yourself when you are going to talk to a girl.

[alexa]

I agree with the above; you need to work on the self-esteem. It sounds like such a cliche, but confidence *is* sexy. How a guy takes care of himself is often more important than his natural looks - how he dresses, whether he has good hygiene, and whether he has confidence are all important. I can be pretty shallow, but I really don't think I would ever consider a guy too ugly for me if he takes good care of himself. (I didn't look at your pictures, so I have no idea whether you're naturally attractive or not; I' just saying that that isn't all that matters.) It's not easy for anyone - confident or not - to put themself out there and face the chance of rejection, but it's the only way to find someone. Remember that most girls are self-conscious and afraid to talk to guys, and a lot will wait for you to make the first move. Just the fact that you posted this shows me that you care and would probably make a great boyfriend. Once you develop the confidence to talk to girls, you'll find exactly what you've been looking for.

[Spellbound]

I agree with everyone else. If you're confident about yourself and you show that you are, I am almost positive that more girls will be attracted to you and your personality. I think that there's someone out there for everyone, and that you'll meet that special girl eventually. Just work on your self esteem. Don't let the fear of rejection keep you from trying to find someone, either. I know that you'll be a great boyfriend, and one day there will be a girl that will be extremely lucky to have you.

[MissMatched]

Well, being a "recluse" probably isnt helping. Go out, meet and mingle. And yeah, the not looking thing is good advice. haha, I mean, yeah Im sick of being single to but everyone I know, and even myself, have stumbled into relationships when we aren't even looking. I don't know why that is though. And don't forget to look at what is right in front of you either. Maybe there is someone around and you don't even realise.

[ThrashAttack]

Thanks for the replys guys