Texting: should the girl or the guy text first

[alexalauren]

The guy I'm looking to text is a good guy. We seem to get along, we just don't know each other very well yet. We don't know one another well enough to talk on the phone yet. When I do text him, he seems willing to text back and keeps a conversation going most of the time. I just don't always want to be the one initiating every conversation. I usually try to put 1-3 days space inbetween each time I text a guy to see if he'll text me back or try to contact me before the next time I choose to talk with him.


I don't want to be too open, but I don't want to be closed off either. Guys and girls, who should initiate conversations and what are some good texting tips you can give me?
(We have hung out a few times in person in groups and twice one on one, but that was a while ago. Then there was a month where we lost touch and thought the other wasn't interested at all, but now we've just very recently started talking again, but he told me that he wants to get to know me)

[Tess*]

To answer the question. It doesn't matter who texts who first.
So have you texted him much already?
If you text a lot and you're always the one starting the conversation, that may not be good.
Has he ever texted you first?
But really, you're just getting to know each other. Right now, even if you are the one always starting the conversation, I wouldn't worry about it yet.
If you've hung out one on one before, why not suggest going out for coffee or something to catch up with each other?

[*~Circus Clown~*]

Hey there Alexa.

As Tess has said, I don't feel that there is anything wrong with you starting the conversation. However, I do see where you're coming from. If you text him, he answers back because then your on his mind. But, if you don't text him, is he even thinking about you? And if he is, why isn't he talking to you? I get that. A lot of people go through things like that. Truth is though, he could be busy. He could feel as if he is annoying you. I mean, since you always initiate the conversation, maybe he feels like since you aren't talking to him, you don't want to. Its important to try and think of things from both sides of the coin here.

If you are interested in pursuing things further with him, I definately think you should tell him you want to hang out. Even just go out to lunch. Something simple. Like Tess said, this way you can get to know eachother in person. How the act with the phones are gone. Its a good idea to see how he acts in person, although you both have hung out before, times change people. He may be different then he was a month ago. So, definately look into it. So, text him and ask him to hang out! Its truly no big deal that you text first.

[Megan1]

I like to take turns starting the conversation. Text him first one day, but then I wooudn't text him again until he texts you first. It lets him know that you could possibly be interested without showing too much interest too soon. And it will also let you know whether or not he is interested- If he texts you first, it means that he was thinking about you, which is obviously a good sign.

[Singing to the starlight]

If he always replies and everything then thats fine. In a perfect world, guys would. But the fact is guys suck at having the guts to initiate stuff.

[Maloo]

I'm 99% of the time the one who texts my boyfriend first. It's just how it is lol

[Pelios]

I don't know the hidden rules but I always let the guy text/call first.