Love story? or Single forever?

[CountryGirl21]

About 3 months ago, I walked into a bank while at the same time this hot guy was walking out with a motorcycle helmet under his arm. I noticed that i did park next to a nice ass motorcycle. Well i walk out from doing business, and theres a guy leaning up on my car on the hood. I thought this was a gift from heaven, i walked up to my car and i saw him closer up, i just knew i wanted to make him mine.

Well he looks up at me when i get closer he says "is this your car?" i smiled said "yes, why?" he had this unsure look on his face.. and slowly said "well.....my bike fell on ur car." i was confussed...and said "how can a bike fall on my car!?" well long story short, it left a dent and scratch on my door instead of swapping insurance numbers... we did phone numbers...that night, i went to his house bc he offered to fix my dent.

He did so, we chilled and watched movies with some drinks. Turns out he is a complete ass, i mean this in a good way. He is a smartass, if i say a smartass comment, i know it's getting thrown back at me 10 times harder. I LOVE THIS!!! this is his best feature besides his looks....a man that can take my humor, and even give it back to me. Constantly made me laugh the whole night, well.. i left and ever since i have been going over everyday or every other day...he cooks me dinner, breakfast in bed, we watch movies, go out on a ride on his bike and of course we got physical....quick. He treats me amazingly, and i get along with him soooo well.


After a month of seeing each other, he gets an acceptance letter to a University, that is amazing. Of course he is gonna take this opportunity, i wouldnt expect him to say no... well he moves 2.5 hrs away from me after 2 months of seeing each other. It's been a month since he's moved there, and he's came home to see me twice already. I already miss him, when i saw him after 2 wks of being away from each other, we couldnt stop kissing, he made me smile ear to ear, i think i almost cried

In the beginning, we agreed to see how we are in 3 months, and decide wether we continue and possible date, what we call a "trial period." If it doesnt work out in the first 3 months...no biggie no harm done. Well, we are coming up on month 3 and i bring up the topic of me being his girlfriend. He always avoids it or brushes it off like im kidding. Or says a comment about the distance...I try to take this as his humor, but its no joke for me. Ive known from day #1 i wanted him.

(note this: we made the "trial period" agreement before the acceptance into college)

Im 21, he's 30. I thought he was a grown man, no games like other guys.

I dont know how to tell him, that ive actually fallen in love with him.
We met so out of the blue, and after almost 2 yrs of being single... ive found someone that i actually want..after hunting and dating so many different guys always comin to a deadend...i actually found him....and have fallen for him harder than my first love of 3 yrs.


How do i talk to him about him becoming my actual BF?


he's gonna live 2.5 hrs away for the next 2 yrs...is it even a good idea?

im down, bc we can commute, but can you give me valid points to throw at him why the distance isnt a big deal?

he's amazing at debates, he's going to college for marketing/business law, so he definately knows how to talk.

[tomohawk]

hey there you know what a story and i strongly believe if you stop looking for love it will find you and by the sounds of things that is just what it has done he sounds awsome being a bike lover myself i would normally ask about his bike but thats not really why we are here is it lol ..... so ldr's? well my experience have not been great but how to bring up the subject of him being your bf .... well ask him out straight or find a really romantic funny and quirky way of asking him..... if he doesnt give an answer then get serios and ask why he wont cross the threshold or even talk about the subject ....... if he still wont talk about it then and im sorry too say but maybe its a losing battle ... good luck and i hop eyou both get what you want i hope this helped a little

[Saracen]

like elvis said : "wise men say only fools rush in , but i cant help falling in love" and this line fits u well , but girl do ask him directly , and let him feel ur absence and presence as well, try but just try to avoid him for once , and he will bring this topic or ask u why u avoided him, and u ask him the question u wanna ask

[CountryGirl21]

Thanks...do u think 2hrs is huge distance to be getting into a relationsip...we won't be able to see eachh other that much...but I think that's healthy.

[PSY]

It depends on the two people who are in the relationship. =) I have been in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend for four years, and we've always been about 2 hours' drive apart from one another. It can definitely work, if you both want it to and if you can arrange to see each other every __ weeks (we used to visit every 4-6, but now it's every 2-3).

[darkangeljbm]

wow can i make that in to a book i hope things work out for you. It sounds like fate to me but who knows.

[CountryGirl21]

lol yes you can make it into a book. I believe this is fate as well.

Well, i actually saw him again last night and earlier today. I had to drive and pick him up to bring him back to our town so he could drive his motorcycle back to college. But in the meantime, while spending time with him he made several remarks that thru me for a loop.

Like:

1- when my phone went off at 1am, he went thru my purse looking for it and asked me who was texting me. (he has never done that b4 or cared that my phone has ever rang)

2- my facebook was still logged in and he had to use the computer... i was right there, and didnt care at all. But he saw an IM from one of my guyfrineds and was like "let me see what this Chad guy had to say..."

3- we were talking about style, bc i had a night shirt on that said "queen of punk" he looks at me and says "your no punk." i asked "what am i?" he smiled and grabs me by my waist and pulls me in for a kiss and says "your my baby"

i asked him later on why he was being so nosey, he said in a smartass way "just making sure my girl is in check"

instead of looking at me and saying i love you, he always looks at me and says "i adore you"

wtf is this meaning? we arent exclusive, and i really didnt think he wanted to be, but he sure is acting like it.

He just turned 30 this past weekend, so maybe his mentality is changing? idk ..

any opinions?

[PSY]

If I were in your shoes, I would see this as an indication of his desire to become exclusive... but I guess you won't know for sure unless you ask him. =D

[CountryGirl21]

thanks but i tried last time he came to see me and he just brushed it off.

idk does all this sound like he's having a change of heart?

[savealife723]

I think the best way of finding out whether he's having a change of heart, is to straight up ask him. He might be brushing the subject off because maybe the distance is a lot for him and he wants to be able to see you more often then just every couple weeks. It could very well be that he's upset about it and it hurts him. But in the end, the only way you're going to find out how he feels is to straight up and straight forward ask him about it and talk to him about why and how you're both feeling the way you do.

I hope everything works out well for you.
It's such a cute story (:

[CountryGirl21]

thank you, i thought it was a cute lil love story.

i dont know, i asked my guy friends what they thought and didnt give very positive advice. They told me that im his girl when he's home but at school he's single. That he's just being sweet to keep me around and keep my attention on him. But they said that if they really like a girl, theyre sweet 24/7 and treat the girl like a princess.

He is very sweet to me, since night #1 he has cooked me dinner, and breakfast in bed. He calls me his princess. I dont want a super sweet guy 24/7, i like the way he is, he knows when to be sweet and when to be a smartass.

idk. guess ill just try and bring it up....again.