My tricky situation

[Silence]

ok i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now, however our relationship is far from perfect, when i first met him i never knew he was married. he told me 6 months down the line that he was married and had a child but didnt want to hurt me. he has left her but thats one huge bundle to take on board.

furthermore im very anti porn and now he has turned round saying he has been using porn while we are apart (we dont live together due to our jobs) . i dont know if im over reacting but he has known how much i hate the concept of porn and now i feel really hurt and cheated to be honest . and right now i cant bare to speak or look at him. is this the end of our relationship i dont know, we've had so much fun in our lives together and i dont want that stoppin but i really dont know where to go from here. any advice?

[taylalatbh.]

Well the first big hurdle is that he's married, and has a child. Do you really want to take on all the responsibility. Although it's not you, it's still a life changer for you. Is he divorcing his wife, or is he still married? Do you really want to be 'the other woman'?

You don't live with each other regularly, which can put a strain on things. Also, he's watching porn, almost as a replacement for you when you're not with him, which I would find offensive. Have you told him your feelings on watching porn? What did he say about that? If he doesn't want to change for himself, he might not change at all. You can't change someone. No matter how hard you try, if they don't want to change, they won't. And you could spend a lot of time in your relationship trying, just to end up hurt in the end.

It's only the end of the relationship is you say it is. You need to step back and think about all the 'problems' that you've pointed out, whether they can be fixed and if it's worth fighting for. It's going to be hard, but if it's the end if the relationship, then don't fool yourself and stay in it any longer. You'll only get hurt in the end.

Take care.