Non-PG13 (Strong Language): I AM ****ING PISSED.

[Silverstar]

I just have to get this off my chest.
I went out clubbing 2 nights ago and I brought this girl Alison with me.

- I liked this girl since i met her, but never tried a THING because she was in a serious relationship. I try to be a good guy and friend in general to all my friends, i never would try and go between a guy and his girl

So were all out clubbing and this other friend of mine Mike starts talking to her. Im not too good friends with this guy but we chill sometimes. Anyway were all dancing in groups and Mike asks me "is she single" and i made it fuckin clear that she wasnt. Either way he grabs her pulls her into the other room and they basically disappear for the rest of the night.

I was with a bunch of other friends so i chilled with them and danced around, trying to meet new people. But at one point I went looking for her, she was on my mind. So after awhile i find her in another room and they were making out.

-I know for a fact she wasnt drunk.
-I have no clue how her relationship was going before this, she always pushed it aside with me


Overall, i admit im fucking jealous, and i know that the nice guy never fucking wins. If it wasnt for Alison being in a relationship i would of tried something in the 1st place, and now i just feel like shit.
I have a bunch of science midterms coming up this week and i cant even study cuz this is completely on my mind. I want to be with this girl so bad, and she's shown signs of liking me too.

- after this happened i ditched a bunch of my friends and bussed home, shes been calling me since but ive ignored her calls,
WHAT DO I DO?

P.S. sorry for the agressive title lol

[cptdean]

only a quick answer, but pick up the phone if she means anything to you!

[Skeleton]

I think you did the right thing by respecting the fact she's in a relationship and not making a move. In my eyes, what her and your friend did was pretty crappy especially if she's in a serious relationship and if that's the type of thing she's going to do, is she really worth it?

You might think she is despite that and if so, then why not tell her how you feel and see what happens? But if I was you, I'd stop bothering if that's the type of thing she gets up to.

[snappydog]

I'd say your friend was out of line... and so was she. I'd agree with the above; if that's the kind of thing she does, you might want to think about whether you really want her. And if you do, ignoring her calls really isn't the best thing to do.

[PlayingPretend]

I agree with what's been said. Why? Simply because it's bound to repeat itself. Sure, there are those who cheat, who regret it, who never cheat again, but that's far outweighed by the number of people who do do it a second time. It's unfortunate, it's sad, maybe even a bit pathetic, but it happens. And I would hate to see it happen to you.

I don't know you personally, but I do know from this thread that you were very respectful of Alison and her boundaries. And that's something to be proud of. You could have done the same thing as Mike, but you didn't, and though it may feel like you missed out, like your loss, etc. try and turn it around and look at it as a very good thing. When you do finally enter a relationship with someone who deserves you (and I question whether or not Alison does based on her behaviour that night), you will find that that particular characteristic is more a positive than a disadvantage.

As for whether or not you should pick up her calls, well, it depends on whether or not you want a friendship. Honestly, if I were you, based on that night, I wouldn't pursue a relationship, but it's up to you whether or not you can handle a friendship with her at this time. If you decide you can, then pick up the phone and talk to her, but I wouldn't bring up what she did with Mike unless she does first, and I wouldn't necessarily bring up you being jealous. But in the end, if she has a boyfriend, has shown signs of liking you and has made out with Mike, she sounds as though she has some issues she should, whether or not she eventually does, sort out before entering any relationship.

[Silverstar]

thanks everyone

ive calmed down,
im gonna talk to her monday, shes in my english class tomorrow morning and im sure something will come out
honestly though i dont know if im
1. Jealous
2. Pissed at the situation and how the nice guy always finishes last
3. or just pissed haha

ugh.

[taylalatbh.]

Hey there,

I definitely did the right thing because although this over guy was making out with her, that's probably all it'll be. A snog in a night club. But that's not all you want from her, so it's good of you to wait until she's available.

Maybe you should talk to her, and find out about the situation with her boyfriend. And let her know that you've got feelings for her, you never know what'll happen then.

I hope things go well, take care.