she's cheating, what do i say?

[theedge]

i've been with my gf for nearly 2 years but yesterday i was driving past a bus stop near her ex boyfriends house and she was standing hugging him, she didnt see me because i was in a friends car but i actually feel sick knowing she's seeing him behind my back i was told before by a friend that he seen her out with him a couple of weeks ago but i thought he cuda jus mistaken some1 else for her, what do i do?

[taylalatbh.]

Just because she's been seeing with him, and hugging him, doesn't mean she's cheating. You should speak to her about it and see what she has to say. But don't just assume that she's cheating on you, she could just be seeing a friend.

Take care.

[Brandon]

That's awfully suspicious. I'd ask her what she did around the time that you saw her. Just in a casual conversation like. Don't make it obvious. If she doesn't say she was with her ex boyfriend, then she's got something to hide.

[theedge]

its just annoying me because she told me she was out with one of the girls, she knows im not the kinda person to get jealous over nothing, im jus thinkin she wouldnt have felt the need to lie about it if there wasnt anything going on?

[taylalatbh.]

She may have lied to you because she knows you'd react badly. You need to speak to her about this.

[AmazonQueen]

maybe because she doesn't want to upset you, im still really good friends with my ex and i'd hug him if i see him, and if i knew my bf would freak out about it why cause him extra stress if it's not a big deal, thats just what i think but i dont have enough info to give you real advice sorry

[Skeleton]

I think you need to talk to her about it. If she lied to you about it, it could mean she has something to hide or that she's just worried about how you'll react but you shouldn't jump to conclusions without knowing the full story, so talk to her and find out what is going on.

[theedge]

she's always talked about how much of a pr*ck he was to her to me so i wouldn have thought they'd still be great friends? im not the kind of person to react badly id just of said " ok kwl text me when u get home let me no ur safe" the way i always would if she was going out at night and i wasnt going to be there, im kind of a doormat i wouldnt pick a fight for nothing, is this something other ppl would bother fighting over or am i overreacting?

[Maloo]

Regardless of if you're overreacting or not, you need to talk to her.

There's no way to straighten anything out if you don't talk to her about it.

[BabyIndia]

Been there and done that.
You accuse her straight out your going to push her away, and she wont talk to you.
Speak to her normally and ask how her day was and what she got up too.
Like others have said if she lies about it then she possibly has something to hide, but she could be waiting on the right time to tell you she's friends with her ex.
I'm friends with a few of my exes, and I know my partner would be pretty pissed with me if he saw me hugging him and not telling him, but him overreacting and shouting at me would just drive me away from him.
If you really haven't got a problem with her seeing him, let her know this.

[WillO'Wisp]

Confront her about this and ask her why she would lie to you about being about with him, and why she wants to be around him at all if he was such a prick to her in their relationship.

[theedge]

ok so i spoke to her about it, turns out she actually has been cheating for the last 3 months, thanks for the advice im off to remove this knife

[WillO'Wisp]

I'm very sorry to hear she was cheating on you.
It's definitely best to get that knife out of your back. Throw her away, she's no good. If she's going to do that to you, she's dishonest and untrustworthy and doesn't deserve you. There are plenty of other girls out there, ones who will treat you right.
Hey, I was cheated on once too, by my first boyfriend, so I know how it feels. I know it hurts at first to break up, but later on you realize it was the best for you and that you're better off without them. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here anytime.
*Hugs*