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Exclamation Foundation based on lies - February 7th 2011, 10:47 PM

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We have been living together for about 8 months. We were in a long distance relationship before we moved in together. We visited on holidays and spring breaks. He said he loved me. We made an agreement to break away from out past relationships/ overall sexual past and start new. We made an agreement to help each others insecurities about the long distance by not partying and drinking. I kept my end of the bargain, but he didn't. He was either with or emailing an ex-girlfriend every week. He partied a lot and drank to the point of throwing up. I love him but I can't get over this. I don't judge our relationship based on things that happened before we officially got together, I look at what he does in our "new start" with one another. He claims he did that because we weren't physically together, but I dont see the point of us even being together if he was so inconsiderate of my feelings and our agreement. I need help
   
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Re: Foundation based on lies - February 8th 2011, 03:12 AM

Welcome to TeenHelp, Adina!

Moving in with him was a mistake. =/ Sorry to be so blunt, but this is something you should have worked out beforehand. Now you really only have two choices: accept what happened and try to move forward (assuming "innocent until proven guilty" from this point on), or deal with the issue now and face whatever outcome results from being able (or not being able) to work out your conflicts.






   
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Re: Foundation based on lies - February 8th 2011, 02:07 PM

I agree with Robin; this really should have been worked out beforehand. But bygones are bygones, and now you are stuck in a tricky situation.

You say you don't think you can deal with the fact that he was lying to you. I would ask yourself exactly why that is, and go from there. If you truly don't think you can get past it, then breaking it off might be the best option. But if you think you can work on having a more truthful, clean future together, then try and go ahead and move on from it.


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