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This is harder than I expected.. - February 9th 2011, 11:21 PM

So my boyfriend has gone away for basic army training in Germany.. and he's been gone since mid-January, and he comes back in April.. and I'm having such a hard time without him.. I miss him soo much.. How can I keep my mind off it?

Even when i'm with my friends afterwards I'm thinking about him.. we speak everyday on facebook and text and call and stuff, but it's just not the same as being together, we are VERY close which makes it even harder..

Any advice?

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Re: This is harder than I expected.. - February 9th 2011, 11:38 PM

Well, congrats on almost getting through one month! =D The first month or two are generally the hardest, when a loved one leaves for a while.

Make a list of things you want to accomplish before your boyfriend comes home. Pick some short-term goals (1-3 days to complete), and pick one or two long-term goals that will require a fair amount of planning. For example, a short-term goal could be something you've been meaning to do around the house. A long-term goal could be planning the big homecoming party for your boyfriend! You'll probably need to contact his friends, plan the catering, the events, the location, etc. Make it a party he'll never forget!

And you've only got two months to do it, so you better get started now. =O No time to feel sad when there's so much to do!

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Re: This is harder than I expected.. - February 9th 2011, 11:59 PM

Ahhh thankyou for always replying ~

That is DEFINATELY a great idea ~ definately, and the party sounds like it'd keep me occupied for a while too because it takes me FOREVER to plan things :P
I am excited now ~ haha, I was just thinking of having a small gathering, but he's not even sure on the exact date he comes home.. I just know it's in April :/
Meeehh.. lol.. Well I'll definately make a list ^_^

Valentine's Day won't be good this year though.. I wanted to go on a nice date.. but looks like I'll be spending it alone.. :/ and all I can do is send a card in the post x

Thanks for replying! ^____^ x

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Re: This is harder than I expected.. - February 10th 2011, 02:57 AM

The best thing you can do is just keep in touch when you can, be strong and wait it out. He can still come and visit or will come home eventually, just think of how good it'll be when you two finally see each other again!
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Re: This is harder than I expected.. - February 10th 2011, 04:25 AM

Anticipation is always the hardest. I went through it when my boyfriend went on a internship in Germany as well the summer before last.

Waiting for him to come was the longest two months of my life.

Here are some suggestions that helped me as well: Write in a journal/diary about your days events, and you can even openly speak about him in the journal if you'd like (I know it's not technically helped you get him off your mind but sometimes thinking about him helps). That helped me a lot because when I was writing, my mind was occupied on something else i.e. thinking back about what i did that day or news or gossip i heard from friends.

Plan a HUGE sleepover or party with friends. Planning also occupies the mind, and planning a sleepover with your best girl friends is a good way. Think about topics to talk about, make prank phone calls, grab the scariest movies you can think of at the store and watch them until all hours of the evening.

Also, counting down the days until his eventual return isn't going to help either. It's just going to make you feel giddy and make time go by way slower than it seems (I did this, and regretted it completely).

When he comes home, as PSY said, throw him a huge homecoming bash. It'll be a nice gesture and it will show him how much you missed him while he's gone!

Good luck hun, and if you want to talk about it, I've been there so I know what your going through. I'm always available.
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