Long Distance Relationship

[tamz]

Hiya,

My partner & I have been together for four months, well officially anyway. But we've pretty much acted like a couple for about 9 months now

He's just got a job 150miles away. He used to live 30miles away and we saw each other every weekend. This was bad enough and we'd miss each other during the week then. But now I'm terrified of how things are going to work out. His contract is 6months with the possibility of extension although he's said he probably won't take the extension. We both want this to work so badly but know we'll only see each other 3/4 times in this 6month period. I know communication is the key to a long distance relationship but he's going to be in work 6 days a week. I've worked there before and know that the last thing you want to do at the end of the day is talk to someone on the phone.

He doesn't particularly want to go as he's very much a home boy. But pressure from his parents and things are making him feel like it's his only option. I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that these things can work. The way I see it, I'd rather see him occasionally, than not at all. I know things are going to be so very hard but I do really love him. So much so that if he proposed, I would say yes if we were a little older. I say older only because at the moment, he's moving away and we don't have much money etc.

So yeah, anyone else been in this position before and has it worked?

[BECCALICIOUS!]

I'm currently in a long-distance relationship with a guy who's 1200 miles away down the coast. I'm in a somewhat similar situation as I'll see him maybe twice within the next 6-7 months. What helps us is holding onto that hope knowing we'll see each other and being patient with each other's emotions. We text throughout the day, call once a day, and Skype at least once a week. It's working so far, and I, like you, would also say yes to a proposal if I were a little bit older.

[tamz]

Thanks, it's comforting to know it's working for someone

He's leaving tomorrow but surprisingly I feel okay about it. I know I love him and he loves me and we want to be together so realistically there's absolutely nothing going to stop us Still scared a little though

[Xineas]

I'm in a long distance relationship myself, I'm on one end of Europe, she's on the other. The only way to get to each other, for a reasonable price, is by plane and since we're both students, it can be tricky at times.

We use Skype day in, day out, since not living in the same country can pump up phone bills quite badly... We text every once in a while, or whenever we feel like we really need each other and we try to meet up every 1.5 to 2 months. With school holidays, it usually works out. Christmas in one country, spring break in the other.

As long as the love is there, distance is just a number and being together is the one thing to look forward to again and again, until the day you can be living together in one house.

[tamz]

Hey Daniel,

I know what you mean about the distance just being a number, but I'm sure as heck going to miss him though. I guess this sort of this is the make or break of the relationship - hopefully the make for us

[lauren_160]

Hey, it's not quite the distance you're talking about, but i've left home to go to uni and i'm like 200 miles away from my boyfriend, and we try to meet up like once a month at the least, i think the key is communication and especially trust! hope it works out xx

[tamz]

My bf has left today and I already miss him so much Don't know how we're going to get through the next 6 months. I just have to keep thinking that seeing him occasionally is better than nothing. I know there's nothing I can do about it if it does happen but I just keep thinking what if he finds someone there and thinks it's better to be with them cos they're live together and stuff?

[Xineas]

That's what most people worry about... Your loved one finding someone else who's actually there... But as Lauren mentioned, that's where trust kicks in. You really need to trust each other to ensure nobody goes sleeping around.