Friends, turned Lovers, turned Friends?

[ollieisxspecial]

Me and my current ex met about 2 years ago, we were best friends for a few months and then began dating. We broke up once, and then got back together and dated for a year, fell completely in love with each other, but the relationship ended very badly. We separated for 8 months and tried to get together again but since his dad already hated me found a way to seperate us by causing his life to be a living hell. He didn't want to have a bad relationship with his father, so he had to cut me out of his life to fix it.

So recently my ex sent me a letter on Valentines saying that he wanted to put the past behind us and be friends, I replied saying that it was great and I would love too. We've been texting every night for the past week or so, and i can just feel the attraction and flirtation. But I know that he just wants to be friends, at least I think. For some reason even if he does still want to be with me, I know his father would not allow it.

The whole thing is that I still like him and I don't know how to be friends with someone that I care about SO strongly. I always thought about him when we weren't together but now that he's back in my life it makes my feelings oh so much stronger. What should I do ?

(Also the whole thing that separated us was the fact that I smoked pot, he was okay with it, but his father already saw me as an addict, even though I'm not & do it very sparingly.)

[TigerTank77]

Honestly, I'd see how things go for now. If you feel it starts to stress you too much, I'd just talk to him less.

I take it getting back with him is something you'd consider?

[ollieisxspecial]

Thanks, I will try and just see where this takes us.

And although I shouldn't get back together with him, I wouldn't object to it happening if it does :/

[MacGuffin]

No expectations is a good way to go. However, if talking to him brings up too many strong emotions when you know more than friendship isn't possible, you may want to moderate how much you talk to him.

[Rhop101]

Yeah the best thing to do is not talk to him so much. Its also ok to ask if he doesn't chat with you for a while so you can finish getting over the relationship

[alexandrish]

well... you should talking to him less.... but wait.. that will make him think that you are avoiding him....

the reason his father doesn't like you is because you smoke pot right? have you try to stop at all? because the way you write this.. it look like you want something to happen with him..(again) and you just can't think to be friend with him....

but if you really want to be in the "friend" zone... yeah.. I agree with the other comments... it's up to you now...