i feel like she's giving me mixed signals

[ac2]

how am I supposed to tell the difference between her blowing me off/trying to give a hint that she's not interested, and her just being legitimately busy?

earlier this week said she was busy to go out to dinner this week, and when asked about next week she said "don't know it's too far, let's see closer to the time". I didn't want to be really pushy or anything so I briefly mentioned it today, and she said that she was going home (as in from uni) to see the doctor cause she's been under the weather recently.
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we're really close, but I really don't know if she's being straight with me or not. I kinda gave up on things with her last semester, but something changed (or at least I thought it did) recently and so I thought i'd ask her out to dinner, but I really can't make heads or tails on the situation.
it's really frustrating especially cause we don't really see each other much on campus these days, and we meet up for lunch sometimes, but I feel like she doesn't really make time for me. but then other times she does make effort to come see me and be with me, just never when it's my suggestion. she gives me all this attention but when I want to do something its always a vague answer I mean if you liked a guy, would you make effort to set out a date when you guys could go out even if you were a really busy person .

[tamz]

Hey,

Everyone's different but if it was me and I did really like the guy and was genuinely busy, I'd say well i can't go out for dinner tonight (or whatever) but how about tuesday? as an example, so i'd suggest another time in the future.

It honestly sounds like she's blowing you off a lot. But maybe the best thing you can do is ask her? If you feel like she's not making enough time for you, could it really do much harm by telling her straight that you like her and ask her if she feels the same way? I know it can be hard coming right out with it but it's going to drive you crazy otherwise.

[SummerTiger]

I do think the best thing to do is to ask her directly... From the information you gave, it's hard to definitively say whether she's blowing you off or not. Just tell her that you want to spend more time with her, maybe do something nice together, and you're upset that she can't find time for you guys to go out... Just tell her directly that you care about her but you feel that you're getting mixed signals, and you want to know what she really thinks.

Just confront her directly about this and get to the bottom of the issue. If you two are close, she should have no problem about discussing it. Just be careful since you don't want to appear too judgmental or offended by her actions; I don't know how sensitive your girl is, but you should always tread carefully and show that you support and understand her when you get into the conversation.

To sum up, definitely try to talk it over. I don't think there's a quicker solution to it than that, honestly...

Hope it goes well!

-Tiger

[Carpe Diem]

I agree with the people above. Every girl is different, and the information you gave us isn't quite enough to know for sure if she's blowing you off or not. If you really want to be with her, you should ask her directly and see what her response is. I know it's really hard to do this (I haven't been able to) but for situations like this, it's the only logical way I see. Good luck!

[jelli1224]

Hey there,
I have to say I agree with these answers you have already been given. It really stinks when someone gives you mixed signals. It can leave you feeling frustrated, hurt and confused. As hard as it might be, the best option here is to be upfront and ask her about it. I know that's hard because there is always that chance of rejection. I know. I had to ask this guy who was giving me mixed signals, and it did not work out for the better. But, at least you know one way or the other. It can really frustrate us when we don't know a set answer. I think you will find no matter what the answer is, you will feel so much more relieved that you asked her upfront and she will hopefully respect you for being so direct and communicating with her. Good Luck! (:

Jelli1224