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March 9th 2011, 02:08 AM
My best friend, her bf, my bf and I were all hanging out and my bf was talking to her more than me
 they are friends and my best friend is naturally a flirt even when she's dating and I think he likes her  . I know she's liked him in the past but says she doesn't any more. I like him and he likes me but I'm still worried or am I just over reacting?
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Re: Best friend and boyfriend :( -
March 9th 2011, 02:48 AM
Boys and girls can be just friends sometimes. My best friend is female, but i wouldn't date her in a million years.
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Re: Best friend and boyfriend :( -
March 9th 2011, 03:03 AM
I think the most important thing to remember is that he's dating YOU. He didn't settle for less because your best friend was "taken" - he CHOSE to date you because he LIKES you. =) Sure, he may have some feelings for your friend, but that's fairly common. You'll probably develop crushes on other boys from time to time, but ultimately, you'll conclude that they're not "worth it", and you'll want to stay with your boyfriend.
You said your best friend used to like your boyfriend. Did she say that? If so, why not address your concerns with her in private? You could say something like, "Hey, I know you said you don't like my boyfriend anymore, and I believe you... but the constant flirting is making me feel insecure anyway. Could you please tone it down a bit, for my sake?" Chances are, your friend doesn't even realize what she's doing, and she'll be more than happy to ease up on the flirting, if you ask her politely and don't make it about how she's "bad" for flirting with your boyfriend. As for your boyfriend, it's not good to assume anything. Maybe he's attracted to her, maybe he's not. It could be a fleeting crush, or it could be something that's more persistent. What I would do is bring up the subject VERY casually: "Hey, have you ever had a crush on (best friend)?" See what he says. Chances are, he'll deny having any feelings or her (or he'll say he does/did, but it's not a big deal). So long as he's not thinking about acting on his feelings, you have nothing to worry about! Remember: he CHOSE YOU! =)  |
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Re: Best friend and boyfriend :( -
March 9th 2011, 03:33 AM
i would say just talk to them. he will probably attack you like you are jealous though. Just take your time with guys. the right one has the potential of being there eventually. dont give up hope. hang in there.
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Re: Best friend and boyfriend :( -
March 9th 2011, 05:33 PM
hey according to me,you are not overreacting you are just scared that maybe he will leave and you just don't want that so i am totally agreed with dylantG93 ,you should just talk to him... about what things comes in your mind... Al the best...
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Re: Best friend and boyfriend :( -
March 9th 2011, 07:26 PM
I've had a situation like this before. If they're friends, it's natural they're going to get on and have a bit of a laugh together and they mightn't realise that it's hurting you. I would talk to your friend before your boyfriend; she's a girl so she may understand your jealous feelings a bit better and tone down her flirty behaviour. I'm sure it's not that he likes her, he just mightn't realise you're not happy about the situation. x
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Re: Best friend and boyfriend :( -
March 10th 2011, 12:51 AM
I'd talked to my best friend before and she apologized and toned it down for a while and she was really sorry but it's started again
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Re: Best friend and boyfriend :( -
March 10th 2011, 04:47 PM
Then it doesn't sound like the flirting is meant to be destructive/malicious toward your relationship. She's probably a flirty person by nature, so it's hard to just flip the switch from "on" to "off", no matter how much she may care about you. I think it would be a good idea to sit down with her again, because chances are she gradually slipped back to being her naturally flirty self, and she may not even realize that she's doing it again (or she may believe what's she doing now is still "toned down").
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Re: Best friend and boyfriend :( -
March 10th 2011, 05:17 PM
One of my best friends was in the same situation a few months ago and everything worked out fine
 I am sure that nothing will be going on with them, he is dating you and if he liked anyone else more than you then I'm sure he would be with them instead of you. I think you have nothing to worry about. If your best friend is a natural flirt then surly you can expect it from her? Talk to her about it and tell her you dont like how flirty she is with you boyfriend and if she is truly a best friend she will understand. Hope everything works out for you. Pm me if you ever need a chat Laura Do You Take The Non-Believers, Because I'm A Non-Believer
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