Where can I find a girl?

[kooldood]

Title says it all. I am looking for a girlfriend, I have no clue where to meet one. An important note, I am indifferent to sex, so don't say parties or anything.

Where do you girls like to hang out, and/or meet guys?

[PSY]

So if you met a girl at a party, and she expressed interest in you, you would automatically assume she wanted to have sex with you? I hate to break it to you... but there are many girls at parties who aren't looking for a one-night stand, and there are many girls who aren't at parties that are looking for one-night stands. Rather than judging girls based on where you find them, why not be a little more open to the possibility of meeting potential girlfriends wherever you go?

The bottom-line is that there isn't any specific place where you can go to meet girls. The girls will be all around you... it's just a matter of whether or not you can approach them and possibly pursue a relationship with them. So if you want to meet a girl whom you have something in common with, join clubs/organizations that are of interest to you. I met my boyfriends through clubs, events, etc. that were of interest to me. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend, per se... I just met people whom I thought were pretty cool, and over time, I started to develop romantic feelings for them. I can assure you that most girls are the same way. You'll find girls if you connect with them through a common interest.

[kooldood]

Not like that. It is sort of like, you meet somebody at a grocery store, they are looking for food. Parties are for people who want a quick hook up. I am not interested in that. Thus, by the transitive property, no parties.

In any case, obviously not everybody at a party is looking for sex, but the majority is. Thus, the chances of finding a girl I would like to be with are much less than in another place.

[PSY]

I go to parties to be with friends and have fun. I'm not looking for sex. I think it's a gross generalization to assume that single girls who go to parties are generally looking to hook up.

But I suppose we all rely on stereotypes, just to varying degrees. If you are truly against going to parties, then I definitely think your best bet is to join clubs/organizations that are of interest to you, and connect with girls who have similar interests. You could also ask your friends to introduce you to their single friends - you will already have a mutual friend in common in that case, so it won't be as intimidating as walking up to a complete stranger.

[kooldood]

Thank you for the advice it's much appreciated.

And why so? I don't mean parties as in get togethers, I mean parties as in drinks and drugs and dancing etc. I see no reason to attend them if you do not intend to go as a pleasure seeker.

[katie4evrr1]

ok, well i head to this skating place and just hangout with my friends. I always have tons of fun and am on the lookout from guys. Its a good place to talk, get to know someone, and have alittle friendly competition on the rink......

but i will tell u here and now, if a see a cute girl showing interest in you DO NOT send a friend to tell her you like her. Ive had that and it's not cool, walk up to her and FLIRT. Other good places are the mall, beach, and wherever the local hangout is in your town. hope i helped SOME xD

[Choose]

In all honesty the correct answer is anywhere but your house.

You have the potential to meet girls ANYWHERE, but in the vast majority of cases you need to show some initiative (as girls are not typically very forward, making our job harder ). As PSY said, you can go to parties and not drink/ do drugs and still have fun. Think of it this way- if you go to a party and don't intend on drinking/ doing drugs, you're bound to find a female that has the same way of thinking as you.

Basically my point is don't rule ANYWHERE out. You see a cute girl you want to get to know, go up and talk to her. I just got a phone # at 8am at a Walgreen's when all I went in to do was get a bottle of water and a protein bar lol. You can meet girls ANYWHERE ANYWHERE ANYWHERE... except your house.

[Harmony♥]

Yep. I do agree that the assumption that the girls who like to go to parties are just there to hook up and drink and do drugs. I go to parties, to hang out with friends and have a good time. If someone approaches me, I just flash the little ring on my left hand finger, and they go away. LOL!

But, I agree with above poster. You can meet girls ANYWHERE! There isn't one specific place, as in you go to a special meeting place with a friend and there are girls there.

I met my boyfriends mostly in school, but I met my current boyfriend hanging out with a friend at her house. Not at a party, however. Just hanging out.

[Ancora Imparo]

Hey Benjamin,

I'm going to be honest with you man, if you have your mind fixed on finding a girlfriend then the chances are that you probably aren't going to find one because relationships usually come about when you least expect it or when you're not especially looking for one. So I'd suggest that rather than go out trying to find a girlfriend, you go out and meet new people, make new friends and network with people because while you're probably meet some pretty quality friends, you'll have more chance of meeting that special somebody too.

When it comes to actually meeting women there are a ton of places where you can meet new people. I mean, you see people every single day, whether it's in the libary while you're studying, walking down the street or even shopping! You're surrounded by beautiful women pretty much the whole time that you're in a public situation, you just have to find your way of getting their attention or striking up some form of conversation with them.

I really hope that this has helped you in one way or another and if you would like to talk further about anything then feel free to PM or VM me whenever as I'm always more than happy to talk.

Take care!

[Troubled_Heart]

I say if you see a girl you like talk to her... I would never make the first move but if someone walked up to me in the street, alone as in no mates in sight... and if you impressed me I would want to get to know you and probably date... good luck