waiting

.*Kassy*. · **waiting -** April 22nd 2011, 03:51 PM

so..theres this guy..and i really like him..hes so sweet..and kind...and understanding..he knows everything about me..and how to cheer me u when im down..and i know he likes me..but he says hes not in a good position to have a girlfriend...how long should i wait for him before its considered hopeless?? i mean..i dont want to hurt him or get hurt..but its been over 2 months...

CvcSly3 · **Re: waiting -** April 22nd 2011, 08:09 PM

I think what he means by not in a good position could possibly be that he is looking at other options or will weigh them to see if he is ready for a commitment. Or if he has never had a relationship, he probably will take a while to think about, but I don't know him so really it could be anything.

Hope this helps.

Harmony♥ · **Re: waiting -** April 23rd 2011, 02:22 AM

I don't think it has anything to do with weighing his options for someone better. Everyone goes through stress in their life. This could be what's going on with him: school stress, family stress. The stress could be keeping him from getting close to anyone, as he doesn't want to bring you into any of his drama that he might be carrying. I would say give him a few weeks, and bring up the subject again. You just need to think about whether or not he's worth waiting for.

CvcSly3 · **Re: waiting -** April 23rd 2011, 02:41 AM

Never thought about that one, sorry. I just looked at it my shoes and thought there could have been someone else, but if there isnt then yes it is more than likely that it could be a personal reason such as stress.

rac146 · **Re: waiting -** April 23rd 2011, 03:18 AM

My current boyfriend took a few months to come around. He had already admitted he loved me, which made waiting for him hard. His explaination was "I need to know I can make you happy." He may be unsure of his ability to be in a relationship, and a lasting one at that. He may be afraid. He may have a lot going on right now. He may be trying to keep his options open. Who knows in the end. I would wait a few weeks and bring it up again, this time asking for more clarification on where things are going for you guys, if anywhere. Of course, you could also do this right now, it's all up to you. Just be warned it may not go like you plan. I did this with my bf, who ended up "taking some personal time to think about whether or not he wanted to be in a relationship." he didnt talk to me for about 2 months. Longest 2 months ever lol. however, those months he realized how much he missed me. So maybe your man needs to miss you. good luck.