rebound relationships?

[pursuit-of-happiness]

So I broke things off two months ago with a guy i really liked because he still didnt want a relationship after six months and i felt myself getting attached. But now he has jumped into a relationship with a new girl who he really didnt even know that well. I know for a fact that he really liked me a lot at one point but its too late. I really miss hooking up with him cos we had strong physical chemistry. He has tried to contact me...like right after he entered this new relationship...I feel like he was almost just trying to see how I was reacting. Im almost positive what him and this girl have isnt real because they have made their relationship so public and I really feel like he did this to get back at me or something. He doesnt treat me right at all but somehow I still miss what we had...it seems like he changed or something. He mentions how there is always the future but its too late now. I really just miss the intimacy. I wont find it with someone else for a while.

[Aletheia*]

Originally Posted by e loveee

So I broke things off two months ago with a guy i really liked because he still didnt want a relationship after six months and i felt myself getting attached. But now he has jumped into a relationship with a new girl who he really didnt even know that well. I know for a fact that he really liked me a lot at one point but its too late. I really miss hooking up with him cos we had strong physical chemistry. He has tried to contact me...like right after he entered this new relationship...I feel like he was almost just trying to see how I was reacting. Im almost positive what him and this girl have isnt real because they have made their relationship so public and I really feel like he did this to get back at me or something. He doesnt treat me right at all but somehow I still miss what we had...it seems like he changed or something. He mentions how there is always the future but its too late now. I really just miss the intimacy. I wont find it with someone else for a while.

You can't say for sure if what him and this new girl have isn't real. You don't know that. He jumped in quickly, but he may have had feelings for this girl. Doesn't mean he never liked you, but you weren't the one he wanted a relationship with, sad to say. I jumped into a new relationship after breaking up with a boyfriend of two years almost a month after. I'm still with that person, two years later, and love him very much. It's not too late for you and this guy. There is a future out there, and nobody knows what it's going to hold, but obviously this guy might want something later. Your young, so he's just trying to figure himself out. No reason to say that you won't find anyone else, or anyone better because it's far from the truth.

[~Up2u(:~]

I understand that watching him go straight from you to some other girl can br pretty confusing and all.Chances are, he was probably just hurt from you guys' break up and this new girl is a rebound. He may or may not actualy have feelings for her i guess time will tel. But seeming how he's treatimg you wrong for whatever reason he may have for doing so, its still wrong so you should cinsider just breaking away from him. Its only natural for you to miss him though. Trust me, someone else will wakk into your life who can give you the same (or better ) sort of relationship that you had with this other guy.
Good luck *thumbs up* (=

[PlayingPretend]

Originally Posted by ShannonPants

You can't say for sure if what him and this new girl have isn't real. You don't know that. He jumped in quickly, but he may have had feelings for this girl. Doesn't mean he never liked you, but you weren't the one he wanted a relationship with, sad to say. I jumped into a new relationship after breaking up with a boyfriend of two years almost a month after. I'm still with that person, two years later, and love him very much. It's not too late for you and this guy. There is a future out there, and nobody knows what it's going to hold, but obviously this guy might want something later. Your young, so he's just trying to figure himself out. No reason to say that you won't find anyone else, or anyone better because it's far from the truth.

This.

I started speaking romantically with someone four-five months after a relationship, someone I had liked for a couple years, and therefore started developing stronger feelings for that person almost immediately after my relationship had ended, and eight months later, we put a title to it. No, it wasn't immediately after that I jumped into a relationship, but to some, it would still be considered soon; even my mother has suggested that possibility. Yet this is someone I can see myself with for a very long time. Again, the situation is a little bit different in the sense that the feelings were there originally, but the point is that every situation is unique. Some situations can seem one way on the outside but be completely different on the inside. So you can't exactly say that what he had with this girl isn't real.

I think what you need to focus on is moving on. This is something I've followed for a while now, and honestly, regardless of your feelings, my opinion is that you could do better. He's done nothing but fuck you around, and you - anyone, really - deserve so much more than that. You were right to break it off based on the fact he didn't want the same things out of the relationship you did, but I would honestly consider what he's doing and the things he's saying to you. You say you had a strong physical connection. I assume he felt it also. It's possible he sees you as more of a potential booty call than anything else (regardless of what he says/said, I feel his actions speak a bit louder), and that's not something you want to become. That's not what I call intimate.

But whether or not he had intimate feelings for you too, that intimacy is something you will find again, but in order to find it, you need to let go of him and your feelings for him. You need to allow yourself to love somebody else, and you're only ever going to heal and be able to love somebody else by letting go of him. My opinion is that you should cut all contact with him and start moving on. Tell him not to contact you, and if he does, ignore him. It will be hard, but I promise you that it does get easier the more days that go by. And I will also tell you that you will start making realisations and connections that you never thought you would see. And you will start to see more of what you deserve and more of what you want, and that will open up the opportunity to find it, and for you to have a strong physical connection with someone while also having/being in an intimate relationship.