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Question Should I talk to my ex boyfriend? - May 16th 2011, 04:38 AM

My ex and I broke up about a month ago. It was a mutual breakup. Except not really. He thinks it was mutual but the truth is that I wasn't ready to end the relationship. When we broke up, I simply walked off before he could see me cry.
Eight days after we broke up, he got a new girlfriend. That hurt me so badly. I think it might be a rebound, but I canít be sure. Even if it is a rebound, it might develop into something more.
I've been trying to get over him and as far as anyone can tell, I have. I've been socializing and having a lot of fun in my life. But... I still miss him. I don't know if I'm still in love with him. I just know that I miss him and want to talk to him again.
We donít see each other very often but the other day we bumped into each other. It was brief, but it was really awkward. I donít want things to be awkward between us.
I donít know how to proceed. Iíve done some research and apparently if I want him back, I need to completely cut off contact. But Iím not sure if I want to date him again. I mean, yes I think I might like to but I think I might be willing to settle as just friends. Yet I just canít shake the feeling that thereís still something between us. Iím scared to mess anything up by contacting him.
So what should I do? If I do talk to him, how should I go about doing it? Are there any things I could do to influence him to contact me first? Thanks!
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Re: Should I talk to my ex boyfriend? - May 16th 2011, 01:18 PM

What you need to do is end contact. He's not worth it sweetie. He obviously didn't feel the same about you as you did about him, because 8 days later, he was seeing someone new. No one in a relationship should do that. Talking to him, or settling for friends isn't going to get you what you want, which is to ultimately be with him again. You need to put on a brave face, and let it go.

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Re: Should I talk to my ex boyfriend? - May 16th 2011, 02:22 PM

You shouldn't talk to him. As Shannon said, he clearly doesn't feel the same way anymore if after eight days of you being split up, he was with someone else and the only way you're going to move on is if you cut contact with him.

As much as you tell yourself you don't want to date him and would settle as friends, as soon as you start talking all the feelings you felt before will come back and it isn't worth it. It doesn't mean you can't ever talk to him again, it just means that now probably isn't the best time. You need to make sure that you've completely moved on before you consider being friends again.
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Re: Should I talk to my ex boyfriend? - May 16th 2011, 02:35 PM

i totally agree with the comments before me. You need to move on.. cuz ive been there. If you hav feelings and he dosent, then he might try to manipulate you later on if u throw urself at him. its happened to me several times, and its no good. I know its hard to move on from someone you still really like, but in the end, its best for you. You will find someone better. I assure you

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Re: Should I talk to my ex boyfriend? - May 18th 2011, 05:57 AM

Thanks guys (: I'll do my best!
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