How to spend time with my gf with a clingy little sister?

Skull candy

Me and my girlfriend are getting married soon and we want some time alone, my little brother is fine with staying at our older sisters but my younger sister isn't. Bekii is very clingy and whenever I do leave her she acts out and screams till I get home, Bekii likes my girlfriend but she doesn't like it when we leave her, she's fine with me leaving if my girlfriend is there but not if both of us leave. Its putting alot of strain on our relationship and I don't know if it will last. Bekii is my main concern and always will be, but I need time with my girlfriend. What should I do? Bekii has the mental age of a toddler, so everything she does and thinks is the same age as a toddler.

Harmony♥

Since she does have the mental age of a toddler, she thinks that you are leaving her and never coming back. You need to explain to her, when the time is right, that you're not leaving for good, you will just be gone for a little bit. A lot of little kids get attached to their older siblings, as they look up to you and want to be like you.

Is it you who thinks it's putting the strain on your relationship, or is it your girlfriend/fiancee? If it's you, I'm not really sure what to say about that as I think it's selfish that you even think that way, but if it's your girlfriend/fiancee, then you should rethink your marriage/relationship to her. She should understand that family and siblings will always come first.

I hope I helped, and good luck with everything <3

Kumagoro

Hey,

I know the feeling, but believe me it's something of a compliment, your little sister clearly loves you loads and needs to know you're there for her. Shannon is right, if Bekii thinks like a toddler she won't understand that you're coming back, so try explaining that to her, and over time she might be more comfortable with your temporary absence. Could you find her something to do while you're gone? If there's a hobby she particularly enjoys, encourage her. My brother loves drawing and when I need him out of my hair, I tell him to go and draw him a picture and that keeps him quiet. The reinforcement might encourage your sister, allowing her to feel closer to you while you're not there.

I hope that can help, let us know how it goes

Skull candy

its my gf who thinks its putting strain on the relationship, I love Bekii she's my whole world, but its not fair on me when my older brother is her true legal guardian. I have her 24/7 and Justin doesn't even see her since he purposely changed his work hours to nights. I'm only 19, he's 26 our older sister is 28, how is it fair that I have to look after Bekii, I have a baby on the way, they have no kids at all, I love Bekii and she will always come first, but I just think its a bit unfair... I already have had one breakdown because of all the stress. I just don't know what to do???