Male Advice Preferred: Seriously, what's going on?!?

[black_butterfly]

If there was something that always confused me, then it would be the things that we, girls, that we might think is awesome but just really pisses guys off. And also, it's the whole 'first-move' thing as well. See, I'm up for dating, I'm pro-dating, but I just feel like if I talk to a guy on fb or in real life, then I'm just annoying them. It's gotten to the point that I want to talk to them but I just can't because I don't know whether I'm being annoying or not.
So I really need some help, what are some of the things that we, girls, do that annoy men? And if I have to talk to someone first, how do I know if I'm just being annoying?
thanks

[Aletheia*]

Kim,

I know you said male advice preferred, but I think I can answer this for you.

Body language. If you're being annoying to them, you can usually tell by how they stand, or how they present their bodies. They might take a step back away from you, they might roll their eyes or shift their eyes in different directions, or they might even turn to look at one of their buddies, or look at their phones a lot. Some might even tell you since men are straight forward creatures, and they want to be honest with you...most of the time. =)

Now, some things that I've done to piss off my boyfriend in the past was saying 'I'm sorry' way too often and for every little thing. Don't do that. Apologizing only seems like you've done something wrong, even if you haven't. This is basically the only thing I've done that has annoyed him in the past.

Just be yourself. If those guys find you annoying, then they aren't worth it. Don't let anyone change you just because you think they don't want you just at that moment. Just do what you do. Someone will like you for you. Until then, don't even waste your time on those guys that don't.

[blumemusik♫]

Adding on to what Shannon said - different things annoy different guys. Some might find the "I'm sorry" thing annoying, others might get really annoyed if you keep texting them, whatever. Get to know a certain guy in particular and if he doesn't find you annoying, you'll know!

Don't change, you're amazing <3

[zakc40]

obviously you dont want to look like you just got out of bed, but i think one of the most annoying thing girls do is wear so muh make up that you can barely see their real face. a little is fine, great even, but dont overdo the make up

[GilTheParawhore]

Well, I think most guys hate being pressured. They also don't like girls who are too loud, whorish or that wear too much makeup. I'm speaking for myself, but most guys I know think the same way.

[dj_chicharito]

just be yourself with a guy. we all like that. when you are natural and show us who you really are. keep tellin my gf that too. and yea dont overdo the makeup

[StrigidaeofChrono]

Originally Posted by ShannonPants

Just be yourself. If those guys find you annoying, then they aren't worth it. Don't let anyone change you just because you think they don't want you just at that moment. Just do what you do. Someone will like you for you. Until then, don't even waste your time on those guys that don't.

Pretty much what everyone else said. If you don't get along, then too bad. You'll get along with someone else. Its the same with girls, some girls may find you annoying. Some girls may annoying. I don't think there is a specific gender thing. I think its about the individual person, some people mesh well, some people don't. If you change yourself for others you are asking to be used, in my experience, that's usually where that action leads you. No one is better then you, and you are not better then anyone else. So if one guy finds you annoying, so what? Just like with friends, there is always going to be someone who excepts you for you. And that is the person who is worth your time. Show your whole self because it is worth showing, and it is what will get you closest to having a strong happy relationship.

[Legion]

As everyone has made abundantly clear, be yourself.

There are two big things that annoy me most about a person when they do it. One, is when they try to adjust themselves to get in favor with me or another. I want to see the REAL you, not some adjusted and modified version. Second thing is when they apologize for being themselves. If there is one thing I hate more than a fake it is someone who feels they are at fault when they ARE themselves.

So please, be who you are and don't worry if you are annoying them. Next time you wonder if you are being annoying, remember that if you must change to please them than they are not worth your effort. You'll meet plenty of people who love you as you are. I assure you.