Boy problems

[A.Place.In.This.World]

Alright, so there's this guy that I really like. He's one of my best friends, but that friendship made me be attracted to him. A LOT. Well I didn't think he liked me but he started sending me mixed signals.

It all started one day in computer class. I said I wasn't pretty and he yelled at me and forced me to call myself pretty. Then he walked me half way to my next class, the whole way, calling me pretty and hot. I know he was just joking then, but the next time, we were at a choir festival for school. It was an intermission and a slow song was played and he pulled me from my seat and started slow dancing with me...Then another time, I was in a classroom during lunch and he hugged me and walked me backwards so I was leaning up against a wall. He still had his arms around my waist and he didn't say anything. I got nervous so I pulled away and then he ran up behind me and lifted me up. I freaked out because I don't like being lifted up and he finally put me down. Another time, I was leaning up against a wall and he walked over to me and put his hands on my hips and just looked at me. I got nervous again and I gave him a hug and then left. I told him I had to get to class, but lunch had just started. Another time, I was having a really bad day and he stopped me in the middle of the hallway and held my face so I would look at him and he asked me what was wrong. I said nothing and he hugged me super tight and then texted me during class and made me feel a lot better. And the last time, he was joking around and he was hitting me and I yelled at him and started laughing and he picked me up again. Then I got him to put me down and then I playfully hit him back.

He has a girlfriend now but he says she's too controlling and he doesn't like her. But when I text him, he doesn't respond back but then he complains that I never text him...I don't know what to do anymore. My only friend that knows about me liking him says I should ask him out...But I'm way too shy.

[zen157mx]

its obvious he likes you. and hes cleary unhappy in the relationship that hes in now. i would try to talk to him in person to clear up the texting thing tho...but until he doesnt have a girlfriend theres almost nothing you can do. Goodluck

[PSY]

It's clear that he's unhappy with his current relationship - otherwise, he wouldn't be fooling around with you. The problem is whether or not he's willing to leave his girlfriend for you... and I'm not sure he is. I mean, he could be into you, but not sure how you feel in return, or he could just be turning to you when he's not getting what he wants from his girlfriend. Either way, I think you need to sit down with him and clear the air. What does he want from you? What do you want from him? If he's not looking to leave his girlfriend right now, then you both need to set some boundaries on the physical contact. His girlfriend may be overly controlling, but that doesn't give him the right to mess around behind her back. If he wants to be with you, then he needs to leave his girlfriend first.

[belle.darcy]

I'm sorry, but I need to know your respective ages in order to be able to give a sensible answer. It sounds to me like you're 16 at the most. Am I right? If so, than I can tell you one thing: he IS obviously into you. How deep, we can't know. You ARE obviously sending him signals that are at least as mixed as his are. He is trying to make a move on you, but you're shy and won't let him. Or, you won't let him because of his gf. Either way it's ok. Just don't expect him to do all the work.

If I was in that same situation, I would probably let him kiss me, than break the kiss and casually ask him 'So, how about this gf of yours?' You don't want to be 'the other one', right? On the other hand, it might be a good idea to let him know you're interested as well, so that he knows what his choices are.

Good luck and keep us posted!

[A.Place.In.This.World]

Thanks guys, and I don't want to do anything with his girlfriend. That's mainly why I don't let him do most of that stuff because it's wrong. I don't talk to him much anymore because of summer break but when school starts, if he keeps doing it, then I'll talk to him...Thanks so much for your help!