Older Boy??? Says He Likes Me???

[Lilly16]

So I really like this boy and He's almost 18. He turns 18 in a couple weeks and I'm 16. My best friend who I've known since I was 4 intoduced me to her friends cause we go to different schools. One of the friends she introduced me to was the boy's younger sister. She is my age and we have hung out a few times. I met him a few months ago and now my friend had a party and he came. We had a lot of fun and we joked and flirted. When we finally went to sleep he and I were sleeping head to head. We woke up the next morning and I left.

My friend and I talked one day and she told me that he said he wanted to ask me out on a date. We had hung out for one night and he already wanted to aks me on a date. Well when we all got to hang out again it blew up cause we went to the movies and didn't tell her mom he was coming to and ended up lying about it. Well we all got in trouble. Now my parents already don't like him because of what happened.

Later he asked me to go to the pool with him cause we had hung out at the pool a couple times already, but my older sister was there. My sister is his age. He asked me to come and it was about 5:00pm so my sister didn't want to go to the pool. I live like 2 minutes from the pool so I told my mom I was going for a bike ride and ended up hanging out with him at the pool for 3 hours. While I was there his ex girlfriend showed up. We talked about her a bit, but she kept staring so he put his arm around me and kept looking me in the eyes. We flirted and an old friend of mine who was ther with his ex came over to talk to us. Well she ended up asking me if we were dating and I didn't really give her a straight answer. Then I was on the phone with my sister for awhile and it turns out she asked him the same question, and he told her no but he said he liked me. Well since I was gone for 3 hours my mom knew something was up. Needless to say my mom found out that I met him out there and was pissed cause I didn't tell her or call her while I was out there.

Now my parents really don't like this boy because I have hung out with him twice and lied about it. They don't know about the first time I hung out with him, when we spent the night. (Nothing Sexual Happened Just To Be Clear)

Well we were fb chatting and he told me that he told my old friend that he liked me and then he sent me a message saying that he really meant it. Well we had been chatting for awhile and then his sister got back from her vaction.

Ever since his sister got back from vacation he hasn't really asked me to hang out or talked to me. I don't know what's going on there, but he left for a a family vacation for 2 weeks and didn't talk to me the entire time. He doesn't have a cell phone so it would be hard for him to call me, but he still could have sent me a fb message.

Well he got back and he didn't talk to me for a couple days, but he started talking to me again. We talked on fb a little but the other night he called me and we talked for and hour and a half till 2 am.

Things have cooled off with my parents and I'm having my sweet 16 party in about a week and invited him and his sister. So I don't know if he is going to come or not. I don't know if inviting him was the right thing to do cause he and all my other friends in that group haven't really been talking to me. All of them are invited to the party but I don't want this to blow up in my face if he does come or doesn't come.

He's older, we go to different schools, but I like him and I'm pretty sure he likes me. Somehow I'm very confused though, so what do you all think does he like me??? Should I still try and talk to him??? How can I mend things with my parents so they will let me atleast hang out with him??? Help

[Coal]

The age difference? Not a problem. Two years is really not a big deal, if you feel like you can connect to him. The fact that he goes to a different school? Why is that an issue? Sure, you might not see him that much but absence makes the heart grow fonder, right? And I think he likes you too. Especially if he wanted to take you out on a date and called you just to talk. So I would say that he likes you and you should definitely talk to him.

Now, as for the parents thing, it gets a bit more complicated. Parents can be unreasonably stubborn when they think they are protecting you. So, just explain to them that what you did (sneaking behind their backs, not telling them where you are, etc) was wrong and you realize that now. Tell them that you're really sorry for abusing their trust and it won't happen again. Then gradually introduce them to the idea that you would like to hang out with him, start out by just saying that you're friends and then go on from there.

[Aletheia*]

Hey there,

I'd say that he likes you. But, you do need to keep the age difference in mind. Once you're older, age doesn't really seem to matter. But, you're 16 and he's going to become a legal adult soon, which could pose serious legal threats against him if you do become romantically involved. I'm not saying they will. Your parents would have to take legal action against him if that were to happen. To keep this from happening, explain to your parents that you didn't mean to betray their trust. You shouldn't have gone behind their back twice in order to see these guys. Parents always find out the truth in the end. But, ask them if you can invite him over for dinner so your family can get to know him. It's best if it's in a setting where they can ask questions, and get to know him. See if he is a good guy for you.

Once that process is done, you can invite him to your sweet 16 party.

Good luck.

[PSY]

I just wanted to add my two cents regarding the vacation/Facebook. Some people find the time to go online during vacations, and some people don't. Personally, I will check my e-mail, respond, then log back off. I don't want to chat with people when I'm on vacation, because the whole point of going on vacation is to get away from the every day life and enjoy exploring a new place! =) So I wouldn't keep dwelling on the vacation/Facebook if I were you. Chances are it didn't mean anything. After coming home and relaxing for a few days, he resumed contact with you, so no problems there! =D

[Lilly16]

Thanks Everyone for the help and advice but now the problem is he's coming to my sweet 16 and my parents still haven't met him. Should I be concerned??? What should I do as far as introducing him to all of my friends from school and my family???

[Aletheia*]

Originally Posted by Lilly16

Thanks Everyone for the help and advice but now the problem is he's coming to my sweet 16 and my parents still haven't met him. Should I be concerned??? What should I do as far as introducing him to all of my friends from school and my family???

I wouldn't worry about your friends right this minute. I would introduce him to your family first, since their opinions will and should matter the most to you. Ask your parents if you could invite him over to dinner, that way you can get rid of the awkwardness of first meetings before your big day. After dinner, try to see what your parents thoughts about him are, and if they have distaste towards him. At the party he should be introduced to your friends.

[Lilly16]

So he came to the party and said Hi to me didn't say a word about my outfit when everyone else I invited complimented me and then he didn't talk to me all night except for a few 5 minute conversations I started and when he was leaving I had to be the one to say goodbye and offer up a hug before he got in his car. So I don't know what to think anymore and now his sister is inviting me to his surprise party. Should I go???

[Le bonheur*]

Originally Posted by Lilly16

So he came to the party and said Hi to me didn't say a word about my outfit when everyone else I invited complimented me and then he didn't talk to me all night except for a few 5 minute conversations I started and when he was leaving I had to be the one to say goodbye and offer up a hug before he got in his car. So I don't know what to think anymore and now his sister is inviting me to his surprise party. Should I go???

I'm not entirely sure but maybe he felt a little out of place or shy? As for going to his surprise party, I think you should go