There's an old saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder."?

caramelqueen12

i learned from watching a lot of girls around me that if you pull yourself away from a guy due to the fact that there is a bad situation their heart will grow fonder and they will return. I never seen it fail. most people say girls does it for games but from what I seen around me it is done for space. has anyone tried to pull away from a situation to give space just in time? most guys call this a game but most girls be childish to play with minds. so is this saying true?
i have been knowing this guy for about 3 years and he been trying to get my attention. we been on and off until this year. every time we have problems he always come back...then we agreed to try some new which is just ruined everything that was gonna be in the future for us.he tryna be a stone guy. i use to back up alot cuz i was scared to talk to him he never gave up

Harmony♥

I believe in the saying absence makes the heart grow fonder. However, not everyone is going to show the same opinion. For me, it does. My boyfriend is in the Army, and we were away for two months a couple of summer's ago while he was away due to some mandatory training. I missed him like crazy, and even for the first month we couldn't talk at all. But, things got better and when he was home, our bond was that much stronger.

Absence could definitely make the heart grow fonder. Everyone needs their space, and everyone is entitled to it.

PlayingPretend

I don't think the action is the issue here. It's the intention behind the action. If a girl, for example, decides she needs space in the relationship because she needs some time to think things through and make a decision about this, this, or that, that's one thing; it's entirely different if a girl is pulling away because she's heard that absence makes the heart grow fonder. The former, to me, is more genuine than the latter; the latter is, in my opinion, game playing. You shouldn't pull away from someone because you feel it'll draw them closer to you, keep them around for longer, rekindle their feelings for you, make them want to try harder, etc... To me, that's playing games, and I don't agree with it. I don't think game playing mends a relationship at all, rather dangles it along by a thread.

That said, if it's of innocent intention, like a genuine break to think things through or like Shannon's case or in mine (I'm in a long-distance relationship, so there is the physical space between us), then yes, I do think that to a degree, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

PSY

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Originally Posted by PlayingPretend

I don't think the action is the issue here. It's the intention behind the action. If a girl, for example, decides she needs space in the relationship because she needs some time to think things through and make a decision about this, this, or that, that's one thing; it's entirely different if a girl is pulling away because she's heard that absence makes the heart grow fonder. The former, to me, is more genuine than the latter; the latter is, in my opinion, game playing. You shouldn't pull away from someone because you feel it'll draw them closer to you, keep them around for longer, rekindle their feelings for you, make them want to try harder, etc... To me, that's playing games, and I don't agree with it. I don't think game playing mends a relationship at all, rather dangles it along by a thread.

That said, if it's of innocent intention, like a genuine break to think things through or like Shannon's case or in mine (I'm in a long-distance relationship, so there is the physical space between us), then yes, I do think that to a degree, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

As usual, you worded things much better than I could have. =)

caramelqueen12 · 06:30 PM

yeah we are distant too....i pull away to give space wen i see it is needed

and it usually works....i was just trying to see was it always true

Madeleine.Claire

I think it varies depending on the situation. Most of the time the saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is true. If you're around someone constantly it can get overwhelming for some people. Others can be around their significant other constantly and be fine, either way a little space is never a bad thing.
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