Shit, shit, shit,

[justfallinginlove]

Shit. Im in love with my best friend...AGAIN. Urghhh

You ready for some backstory? okeyyy!!
We've been best friends going on 3 years now. Hes awesome. Hes my big brother, my dad, my best friend, my protector, and my love, all in one. Well last fall we began going out and broke up early this past spring. I was heartbroken but I got over it eventually. (oh and please no hes an ex for a reason, we broke up because we always promised that our friendship would come first and it was becoming secondary to the relationship so thats why we broke up.) Well we went back to being best buds and its awesome and all.

But, within the last few days i realized, im falling in love with him again. I love seeing his name pop up on my phone and i get that giddy feeling and a lump in my throat when i think about him. Crapp. Like seriously? Why. haha And its funny because hes going to know. We are very close and know everything about one another without even havinng to speak a word. Hes going to be able to see it in my eyes (when i look at him etc) Which I suppose isnt bad but idk... i doubt he'd want to get into a relationship with me again so soon ya know? But maybe... idk at this point im sorta ranting. So any opinons/advice? And please no "stay aways" or offensive comments, afterall he is my best friend. Wouldnt wanna have to bust ur butt Thankss!!

[chook14]

Well if he's going to know anyway, you could just tell him straight out and see what he says?!If he's your best friend, he's not going to be upset or anything, and it would probably help to talk it over. It might just be left over feelings from when you were dating. Like maybe you didn't completley move on and it's just going to take a bit longer to start seeing him strictly as a friend again. Or, maybe you don't want to move one?! I've found the best relationships come from friendships...you two might just need to find a good balance...there's no reason you can't date and be best friends! And it obviously didn't change anything between you, if you're still best friends after dating and breaking up. I think you should see where he stands on all this! He might feel the same, but if not, he'll at least be able to help you figure out your own feelings. Good luck <3

[Madeleine.Claire]

If he is going to find out then I would just tell him, say "I'm having feelings for you again". But the thing is, what do you want to do about it? Do you want to get back into a relationship with him and hope that your relationship doesn't come before your friendship again or would you rather have him know but keep the relationship platonic?
Sometimes when a girl and a guy are that close, you can't help but begin to feel romantic feelings towards them. Anyways, I hope it all works out!
<3

[justfallinginlove]

hmm...ill have to think about telling him. Id rather have it go unspoken haha.
And Maddie i think u hit on something when you said "Sometimes when a girl and a guy are that close, you can't help but begin to feel romantic feelings towards them" Its so true! Like were so comfortable together people often ask if were together. Its funny really.
But Ill think about talking to him about it... thanks you guys!

[Nicole!]

I agree with what Maddie said, when you're very close with someone it can cause feelings to go even further. I think that if you feel you can stay best friends with him even though you have feelings for him then keep doing that. If not, you may want to think about getting a little space from him until you can sort out your feelings. It would be terrible if you had to go through heartbreak twice from one guy, especially so soon.
Maybe instead of telling him you could drop some hints and just see how he reacts?