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Exclamation WOW. boyfriend for a year. exboyfriend from 3 years ago. wierd! - August 9th 2011, 06:37 AM

so, i have an amazing boyfriend that i absolutely adore
he's great to me and i wouldnt change him for the world... we have experienced so much together and have been together for a year so our love has bloomed.
but yesterday my ex from 3 years ago decided to text me to ask about talking to me. i talked with my current boyfriend about it and he was kind (as usual) and said to talk to him so he could have his closure so tonight i talked to him on the phone.
he knows i have aboyfriend and wishes us the best but he says he feels terrible about how we eneded (we only dated for like 3 months and it wasnt even official nor sexual because he was quite older but he left me for his ex that he was with for 3 years before he met me).
long story short, he apologized sincerely and wanted to let me know how he feels. basically that he misses me, thinks about me a lot, i was the biggest mistake of his life ect.... he says he doesnt have intentions and doesnt want to interfere with my current relationship since i seem happy but he would like to be friends because he would rather have me in his life as a friend then not at all (yes, cliche)
but now, i dont want my boyfriend to worry (he knows it all and says he's ok with it as long as he doesnt hit on me or cross boundaries) but idk... what do you guys think?
   
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Re: WOW. boyfriend for a year. exboyfriend from 3 years ago. wierd! - August 9th 2011, 06:55 AM

I wouldn't worry about it if you don't have feelings for him anymore. My ex did something similar & my boyfriend also knows about it. I just wouldn't keep in a lot of contact with him. Just because you were the "biggest mistake of his life" doesn't mean he still wants you. It just sounds like closure to me, which is what he got. So now it's time to move on & concentrate on your current relationship.
   
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Re: WOW. boyfriend for a year. exboyfriend from 3 years ago. wierd! - August 9th 2011, 06:59 AM

If you're willing, then there isn't a problem here. Your boyfriend seems to trust you, which is a very good thing and your ex does sound sincere when he said he wants to be friends. Your boyfriend is right though, make sure there are no boundaries or lines crossed. It could lead to a sticky situation.











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Re: WOW. boyfriend for a year. exboyfriend from 3 years ago. wierd! - August 9th 2011, 07:41 AM

yea i felt bad so i told him i would be his friend still and that i did miss him too but didnt have the same feelings because i do have a boyfriend. i told him i forgave him and that i understood but if we were to continue to talk it couldnt be anything romantic in any way and he agreed.
I'm glad my boyfriend trusts me. i just dont want any problems because i'm an extremely nice person and would never turn away someone who needs or wants a friend but at the same time he is totally not worth any drama between me and the man i am in love with.

(and yes, he has made it very clear that he still has feelings for me and wants to be with me again)
   
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