I'm freaking out here

[Aletheia*]

Hey guys!

I'm seriously freaking out. For the past couple of months, my boyfriend and I have been considering moving in together. He's in the Illinois National Guard, and works two jobs. But, I'm currently still on the job hunt with a few prospects coming my way (I have an interview this Monday!).

Moving in together is going to be a huge step to talk. I know it's only being considered right now, but if I get this job, I'm most likely going to move into his place with his parents since the job is closer to his home than mine.

I've been looking into foreclosed homes, since it's a great deal cheaper than renting an apartment (Some monthly payments are as low as $100 dollars). The thing is, I'm terrified. I've lived with my grandparents for the majority of my life. I lived away from them for 7 years while my mom and I lived with her ex, but I moved out due to not getting along with him anymore, and have lived with my grandparents since then.

Is it normal to feel this SCARED about moving in together. We've been together for 2.5 years. And, we've recently come across some relationship problems that we talked about and are trying to work on. However, I don't want to get into such a huge committment with him if nothing is going to come out of this relationship.

Do you think I should talk to him about my concerns, and what we both what out of the relationship? I'm just not sure what to do.

[Le bonheur*]

Hey Shannon

I definitely think you should talk to him! Communication is key in all relationships. If you express your concerns and fears to him, I think he'd be understanding and you two could come up with something to help you feel at ease with the situation.

I wish you luck<3

[Cosmic]

You should definitely sit down and talk to your boyfriend about concerns you have about the next step in the relationship. Find out what he wants out of the relationship, where he sees himself in a year, and then discuss what you would like out of it. Moving in together and potentially even buying a house for you two to live in is a huge step in a relationship and should not be taken lightly. Of course you are going to be scared about it, which is perfectly normal. However, if you are having doubts about moving in and what could possibly come in the upcoming months, you should definitely talk to your boyfriend about it before you jump the gun and risk the possibility of regretting the decision a few months down the road.

[inFAMOUS]

I know im younger but from my experience, talking about it helps out alot

[Aletheia*]

Thanks everyone! I really appreciate now. Now, the key thing here is trying to find a time to talk to him. As I mentioned above, he works two jobs on top of training with his Unit, so it's really going to be hard to find time to sit down and talk.

Usually, when he gets home from work, he's exhausted and has to be at his morning job at 6AM the next morning, so I'm hoping I can find a time to sit down and talk to him within the next week or so. I'm supposed to be going out there next Thursday, so hopefully I will be able to talk to him then about it.

[*Learningtobreathe*]

GOOD LUCK SHANNON! i hope everything goes well for you

[Aletheia*]

Thanks Nakita!

I'm really worried that we aren't going to have the same ambitions or wants out of our relationship. A couple of years ago, before my boyfriend and I started dating and we were just friends, he wasn't the marrying type. But, we have talked about it before in the past and one of my greatest wants in life is to someone's wife and to become a parent with them.

I might not like the result of our conversation, but I hope we can somehow get to the same page with everything! I'm just making myself more nervous lol

[*Learningtobreathe*]

breathe! i'm sure everything will turn out fine. if he really loves you and if you think yall are ready for this, more power to you, i'm sure it will be ok, shannon.
i love you

[EndangeredHeartsx3]

You can do it Shannon! Just take it one step at a time and go slow with things. Don't rush right into it! Good luck(:

[Cosmic]

Don't fret Shannon, I'm sure everything will go swimmingly. You both love and are committed to each other, so you two should be able to get on the same page and sort it all out.

Good luck