He's Taken, But I Like Him...

[PrettySkyes]

Hi, thank you for taking the time to read my post! I'm sorry, it is rather lengthy...
My mom's friend has a son my age (17), we will call him Jake. I've been rather interested in him for awhile. He is currently dating a girl that goes to our school. She doesn't really pay much attention to him and they have been dating on and off all summer. From what his mom says, I can tell he isn't into her. His mom says he likes girls like me (and I'm not just saying this because I like him.) Jake says that she is too touchy feely for him and that she is a little bit controlling. Jake's mom says that the girl doesn't act appropriately at dinner parties and such and that she invites herself over without permission. When I see her and Jake together, you can tell that they aren't really a great couple...she ignores him.
Jake's mom says he ends up eating lunch alone a lot because she goes off with her friends. He ends up eating with his mom usually. (She is a teacher at our school.) I have told Jake's mom to have him contact me via Facebook and I will eat lunch with him.
I am really interested in Jake. Is it wrong of me to be interested in a guy that is taken?
If it's not wrong, how can I make the first move? Or should I wait for him?
Should I facebook him and invite him to eat lunch with me?

[Le bonheur*]

Hi Skye. Welcome to TeenHelp. It's not really wrong to like someone who's taken unless you make a move, which I do not suggest doing until he's single and ready. I would suggest giving him a friendly invitation via Facebook to eat lunch together so he won't be eating alone or with his mom. Start off by being friends. It could turn into something more if he feels the same attraction that you do towards him.

[PrettySkyes]

Thank you Brittany! That really helped!

[Aletheia*]

Hey Skye,

Firstly, welcome to TeenHelp! I hope you find the answers you're looking for!

It's not wrong to like him even though he's taken. However, it IS wrong of you to try to make a move on him while he's still in a relationship. Sure, you might want to make a move on him, but think about it this way: How would you feel if another girl or another guy was trying to smuggle their way in YOUR relationship with someone? (That was a hypothetical situation, of course). Wait until he realizes that this girl isn't into him, and he isn't into her. You CAN invite him to eat lunch with you, since he does quite often eat alone. But, until he's single and remains that way for a while, don't make a move on him. Let him figure things out on his own, and when he's ready, he'll be single and ready for a relationship that will work for him.

[PrettySkyes]

Thank you Shannon!