Your friend's ex?

[asian persuasion]

So I kinda always thought it was against 'girl code' to go out with your friend's ex? What's your opinion on this vs. my situation?

Not that I particularly like this guy in that way, and I have no intention of dating him or being romantically involved, but I am bringing him as my date to our winter formal. My friend is kinda upset that this guy is going to my school's winter formal and not their's. I guess a lot of people have this idea that he likes me. I get asked that a lot too, but my answer has always been "No, I don't like him like that, and no he doesn't like me like that."

Just don't wanna start any drama, and don't wanna be sending the wrong message to my friend either, but I still want a date for the formal -- get what I'm saying?

So, yeah. 2 questions.

1. Is it wrong to be in a relationship with your friend's ex?
2. Should I bring this kid as my date?

[Silhouette]

1. I think if your friend is completely over him and gives you permission to be in a relationship, then it is okay. But if they had a messy break up, then I wouldn't ever date them. Friends are more important then boyfriends.

2. I think you should. Its only as friends after all. Maybe make sure that is clear to him?

[better-than-ecstasy]

1. No I don't think its wrong, but then again I don't really comprehend 'codes' or whatever. Still it shouldn't be wrong!
2. Yeah go for it! Do what you want to do and what makes you happy!

[asian persuasion]

Yeah I mean I think I should just take him, seeing as how I already asked and it would be super super mean to like... uh... take it back now, you know?

On the other hand, this girl is like genuinely upset about it. :/
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Conflicts, conflicts, conflicts...

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

As long as your friend is okay with it, there's nothing wrong with it.

[asian persuasion]

She's pretty much not okay with it from what I know.

Since... Well, I never talked to her about it, actually. I don't ever see her since we go to different schools and live on opposite sides of the island and stuff. I met her through another friend AFTER I met her ex, so IDK. It's not like we're super close or anything, but yeah. The friend I met her through told me she was kinda upset that this kid is going to our school's winter formal and not their school's formal, and that's about all I know, not even from her mouth.

[Love.Peace.Happiness]

I think it's kinda rude to your friend.... so my I think he's off limits

[asian persuasion]

Well, I'm a lot closer with her ex than I am with her, if that makes any difference.

[Harmony♥]

1. Is it wrong to be in a relationship with your friend's ex?

I never found this to be a problem, as long as it's discussed before hand. I'm all for girl code, but there is no 'written girl code'. I've had friends date my ex's, and I've been fine with this. I've even made friends with several of my ex's new girlfriends (if I didn't know them). They always turn out to be great people, and I tend to do it to make sure they're picking good people for them at first, but we quickly become friends. It's okay to date them, unless they tell you otherwise. Friends should always come first.

2. Should I bring this kid as my date?

If you're comfortable with it, and he is too, I don't see a problem. He has the choice to attend either his winter formal or yours, and obviously, he agreed to attend yours with you as your date. Don't let what the people are saying influence you into bringing someone else. It's already been agreed upon that you'd go together, and since you have no true feelings for this guy, I don't see a problem with it.

[Skeleton]

If the only reason she is unhappy is because he is going to yours and not hers then I don't see why you shouldn't take him. If she wanted him to hers enough that she's upset about it, then she should have asked him sooner.