Female Advice Preferred: I think my chances of getting a girlfriend are nill

[Warachia]

I'm just going to continue being the "mysterious,silent" guy.

Gives me more time to myself to think about novel/video game ideas.

The reasoning for wanting the wife to die is to force the child through suffering.
The child will have me as her only influence. Desensitizing her to horror and death.

The wife will just be a obstacle.
"Can't play or watch mature stuff in front of the kid"
The child has to learn about society's ills at a early age.
The child has to be like me.

Elfen Lied and Silent Hill are horror fiction with symbolism,themes and a dark storyline.

Positive humans?

(excerpt from one of my quotes)
"But even intellectual men commit heinous crimes."

Everyone has a dark side, you can't possibly deny that concept.

"You need to put effort into it and get off your ass."

I'm just gonna sit by myself, that's all.
Until a girl is brave enough.

I consider myself like a puzzle that has to be solved.

You can't solve me, then you're not the right girl.

Evading eye contact prevents girls from seeing through me.

[Raining Glitter]

Once again... You did not answer my question.

Before I discuss anything more about what you just posted, I would like you to answer my question.

If you believe this truly, why did you post this thread? If you don't want a relationship right now, why go through all this debating?

It sounds like you are debating with yourself still. You want one, but you also don't so you make these little rules and concepts to make your fear reasonable. Stop playing all these mind games with yourself and the people around you... It helps no one.

“Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.” -Fyodor Dostoyevsky

[Warachia]

And to explain..

Those are "Christan girls" at Youth Group.

God-fearing individuals hate horror and anything dark.

They're against using the concept of sex and rape and abortion and the occult in stories.

And I'm not calling athiest either, I talk to him when I want to.

Pretty much anything "wicked" is condemned by religion and the Bible.

[Raining Glitter]

Originally Posted by Warachia

And to explain..

Those are "Christan girls" at Youth Group.

God-fearing individuals hate horror and anything dark.

They're against using the concept of sex and rape and abortion and the occult in stories.

And I'm not calling athiest either, I talk to him when I want to.

Pretty much anything "wicked" is condemned by religion and the Bible.

Maybe you misunderstood my question. What I mean is

If you believe relationships aren't important thing in life, are unnecessary, and something you might just stop focusing on-why did you make this thread? Why are you debating whether you are "undebateable" or not?

It is fine to believe that you don't want to date someone because I agree that dating is not the most important thing in life- I just don't see the reason why you would even post this thread unless you want to date. Or that you want to be with a girl.

If you want a girl so bad-playing mind games with her won't work. It will just make her confused on your intentions and you won't be able to find a girl then. Girls are human too. Just like how you are human. If both genders sat on their butts waiting for the other one to do something-nothing will happen. And that is what probably will happen to you if you keep putting up these barriers between your emotions and these girls. "Rejecting" anyone who comes by won't make her chase after you-normally it will make her move on because she's not a mind reader. Not everyone wants to play these minds games...

What else:

Why do you go to Youth Group if you feel like everyone in the group-both boys and girls- would dislike your horror interest-why do you go? If they all are "God-fearing individuals that hate horror" then why do you go? I thought youth groups were connecting with one another, making friends, and supporting one another no matter how they are. If you think they will judge you-why go?

Why is Youth Group the only place for you to meet girls?

You said you were homeschooled, right? I have friends who are homeschooled. They don't hide under a rock all day-they interact with the community and join clubs/programs where they can meet more people.

Try checking out some Homeschooling programs. My friends were in this one homeschooling program where they meet with other homeschoolers in the area once a week to take extracurricular classes like art, music, language, acting, debate, graphic arts, ect. That way you can meet more kids like you, who are homeschooled, and all of them aren't the "God-fearing girls" you claim are in your Youth Group.

Or maybe try doing more charity work. There are a lot of nice caring girls of multiple religions who do charity work. You help a good cause while also making friends/potential future girlfriends. It could be helping at a senior center, food pantry, tutoring kids at an elementary school, cleaning up a park-ect. I could continue on and on and on. Find something you might be interested in.

Or maybe research your interest. I wouldn't be surprise if there is a Horror hobby/interest group in your area. Definitely since Halloween is a popular Holiday (if you live in the US), it gives an open mind to horror and makes people not scared to come together and form a club. If you have any Halloween/costume stores nearby, try asking them. Normally there's at least one person who works there that loves horror and probably knows something about horror events or clubs in your area.

[QuantumModulus]

Either you, Warachia, are deliberately trying to gather some form of pity/constant support for your lack of ability to get a girlfriend - in which case, you should probably listen to the advice that you've been given many, many times - or this is the longest standing trolling thread on TH. The latter seems more likely.

[Warachia]

I am not very social.

The only reason I go to Youth Group is because my now-dead-for-three-months mother made me join.

Before that, I was staying up late playing Black Ops and LittleBigPlanet 2,interacting with my PSN friends and watching anime on Saturday nights.

And there isn't anything with playing mind games. Psychopaths like Hannibal Lecter did,so why shouldn't I?

Horror events? I prefer to keep my horror stuff to myself.
It's frickin zombies or ghosts. No one gives a real fuck about psychological horror.


Sorry, but the only socialite in the family gone(My mother), I'd rather keep my social events to just "get together gaming spend-the-nights" with my friends and family reunions.

[PlayingPretend]

Originally Posted by Warachia

I am not very social.

The only reason I go to Youth Group is because my now-dead-for-three-months mother made me join.

Before that, I was staying up late playing Black Ops and LittleBigPlanet 2,interacting with my PSN friends and watching anime on Saturday nights.

And there isn't anything with playing mind games. Psychopaths like Hannibal Lecter did,so why shouldn't I?

Horror events? I prefer to keep my horror stuff to myself.
It's frickin zombies or ghosts. No one gives a real fuck about psychological horror.


Sorry, but the only socialite in the family gone(My mother), I'd rather keep my social events to just "get together gaming spend-the-nights" with my friends and family reunions.

Because you aren't a psychopath, but I'm over and out.

[Warachia]

And now some crazy bitch is stalking me through text messages..

[Raining Glitter]

I agree with playingpretend.

Oh and please answer my question again. Stop avoiding it. Unless there is a reason why you don't want to answer it, then there is no harm done answering. Actually, not answering does more damage at what you are trying to say than actually answering would be.

Anyways...

You are not a Psychopath. I know you might want to be one really badly, but you are not. Posting on here proves it. Psychopaths don't go on forums debating about a debate whether you are a psychopaths. Psychopaths just go and do stuff. You are not one, and no matter how bad you want to be one, you won't be. Killing your wife won't make you a Psychopath because psychopaths simply just do without trying to "prove you are crazy" to anyone. Psychopaths mind set and perception on the world does not involve him/herself claimimg "Oh well I'm different and I like disturbing stuff, so I must be a psychopath!" Usually they don't even consider themselves as Psychopaths.

So, I'm sorry, but your not a Psychopath. You can't force it on yourself, it is not healthy. Instead of making yourself something you aren't try embracing yourself.

It sounds like right now you are grieving your mom's death, whether you believe it or not. Some people can't recognize that they are grieving-it is almost like the traumatic event didn't happen or you are not acknowledging that you are grieving from the traumatic event. This is one of the five stages of grief called Denial.

It sounds like you pretending that you aren't hurt from your mother's death, so you tell yourself that you aren't and your reasoning behind it is that "your a psychopath". You make yourself believe a psychopath by making excuses-"Oh, I watch horror, so it must make me like the character's in the show" -"I want to kill my wife so that way I can be a psychopath since all psychopaths kill their wives", "Psychopaths play mind games, so I should play mind games since I'm clearly a Psychopath", so on.

http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/the...oss-and-grief/
The links talk in detail about the 5 stages of grief. PLEASE CLICK ON IT before posting. Don't skip it. Not looking at the link hurts you more than helps you.

And to be honest, the fact that you say that there are no Horror clubs proves you haven't done your research on Horror. If there is a whole genre devoted to Horror, why wouldn't there be conventions, clubs, activities. People like meeting people with similar interest. What about anime clubs and anime conventions? There's anime horror, so there must be anime horror watchers-including female ones.


I know you've been through a lot lately. Losing a family member, let alone a parent, is hard. I actually lost my uncles three months ago, now that I count the months difference. It feels like I lost him yesterday. Please, don't feel like you need to pretend it is bothering you. You are human, it is okay. Try talking to your guardian or another family member about it. They are grieving with you-don't feel like you need to be strong and that "it doesn't affect you". Sometimes counseling is needed after a family death or tramatic event-not that it will turn you psycho (real life is not the movies) but because you might fall into depression. Keeping it bottled inside, though, isn't healthy and it will just continue to hurt more. Please, talk to someone.

Don't feel like you can't talk about it. If you feel like there's no one to talk about it in real life, there are people on here who can talk to you about it. EVERYONE goes through grieving. EVERYONE. We might go through the stages differently and might have different methods to handle grief/lost, but we all feel that gut wrenching black hole.

[Warachia]

Why am I debating?

I hate to say this because it will render this thread non-PG-13..

So just small text will make things better.
It was a little while before I actually gave CPR.
I felt the breasts and sucked on one of the nipples and pulled off the panties to what it really looked like for God knows why the hell I did that..

Then I tried CPR and then called 911.

Since then, the guilt has been present.. and I've closed myself and became who I am today.

I never grieved after that day. Not even when seeing the body for the final time.

Playing Silent Hill 2 is the only way to solve this..

(Why the hell isn't the size Bbcode working?)

[Warachia]

Goddamn it, I got it.

Alternate Plan 2(Goddamn it Jim and Mary.)
-Be "Slightly mysterious,silent guy MKII, The Definitive edition)
-Say "Hi" and start a small conversation and smile. If girl is too shy, screw that.
-End conversation("Okay it was nice talking to you".)

Decision!(Oh what the hell..)
-Leave piece of paper with phone number

Christmas Party(BOOK EM,DANNO)
-Be "S.M.S.G.MKII"
-Socialise.

I got my eye on the girl in youth group with the glasses..(Possible nerd, so better chances)

If to no avail. I'm just going to live in isolation.

[Warachia]

On second thought, I better just focus on some other girl at youth group..

[Ibanez]

^Good idea. I think Raining Glitter has written you enough advice to fill 20 threads, perhaps you should read it. Can this be closed now?

[Nicole!]

Since the OP has been given numerous advice, I am going to go ahead and close this. Feel free to create another thread if needed.