I cheated on my boyfriend

[Jessica__111]

Last night my boyfriend got home from work at 4am in the morning, i was on our couch having sex with my best friend. We were both so drunk we didn't even notice him there, then i turned around and I could literally see his heart break... He bashed him and then spent the whole day crying,
I am a horrible person, i feel so low, so heartless and so worthless. Ive been living with my boyfriend for 3 years now, and i betrayed our love in the most unforgivable way. He wont break up with me and he wont let me leave him, so i have to live with the guilt, spending the rest of our lifes trying to make it up to him..I just want to run away and i cant.

All he does is cry and scream why, and i cant even dignify him with an answer, i have no excuse in the world. Nothing i say can undo what
i've done. How can i say i love someone and betray them like that.
Actions speak so much louder then words, and thats all i have, words.

I look at him and i just feel so bad, ive never hurt someone so much in all my life, he hates me, the way he looks at me breaks my heart. He doesnt want to break up, and i just cant imagine him ever forgiving me or us ever being happy ever again, i just want to leave and let him start to heal, why is he staying with me? I wish i could take it back so bad, some things are truly unforgivable

[The Goblins Blade]

I would give him some space and time, moments like this are hard on anyone. He may start talking to you again, if he does just sit him down and tell him that you are really really sorry.

[chickenonsteroids]

Well i'm sure whether he will forgive you soon. What you did was really bad but you've already noted that.

Give him space to the best of your ability but show him you still care.

ps don't do it again

[FillingWithHope]

Space. You have noted what you did wrong and you were honest with him which was a good thing. Its good that he doesn't want to break up but just don't do it again. Good Luck and Stay Strong

[The Goblins Blade]

Have you spoken to your freind since this happened?

[Aletheia*]

Space. Let him figure things out. He's not letting you leave for the simple face that you've been together for a while, and ending a 3 year relationship is going to be difficult for anyone, no matter what the circumstances are.

You need to take things day by day, give him the space and time he needs and when he's ready, he'll come to you. Best of luck.

[Le bonheur*]

I agree with everyone else. You need to give him his space. Let him sort out his feelings and let him decide what he wants to do with the relationship. He doesn't want to make a split minute decision regardless what the situation is. Just let him come to you when he calms down a bit and he's clear headed and knows what he wants.

[Nicole!]

I wouldn't talk about it anymore. Just make sure you prove to him that he can trust you and as others have said he needs some space and time to get over this.

[LostAngels]

I'm not going to lie, I think cheaters are a very low-form of human.*

Clearly you acknowledge what you did was wrong, and feel the utmost remorse, and for that you have my respect.*

Cheating is very damaging to a relationship, but what you need to realize here, is you cheated on him with your best friend.
This is most likely a guy he hears a lot about, and sees a lot as well.*
The act itself is something I believe he will be able to get over with a lot of time and reassurance.*
The long-term problem here is the fact that it was with your best friend.

Your partner is going to be forever wondering how strong of feelings you have for this guy, how long you've had them, and will also constantly compare himself to him. Regardless of what you say, ever.
In order for you and your boyfriend to continue this relationship, you're most likely going to have to distance yourself significantly, if not completely rid yourself, from your best friend.*
If your boyfriend asks this of you, do not take the power-tripping road of telling him he can't dare ask you to choose between him and friend.
He has every right to ask this of you, and if he doesn't even ask you to do this, you have betrayed the most loyal, caring guy you will ever meet.*