Breaking up gently?

[PhantomOfTheOpera]

My boyfriend has really been annoying me lately. He's been obnoxious and loud (mostly during classes), and has been completely disregarding everything I say. For example, I made him an anime-inspired book (we're both into anime), and I told him not to tell anyone about it. It takes hours to make one, and I don't want everyone in the school asking for one. So he decides to tell everyone at school, and post it on Facebook and Skype. When I confronted him about it, he apologized, but I could tell it wasn't sincere, and he walked away.
In addition to this, he's been getting very... physical, I suppose. I've practically been living in his armpit whenever we're together. Our school has a "no PDA" policy, and he repeatedly ignores it. When I tell him I don't want to get in trouble again, he thinks I'm mad at him. He can also get violent. He has no discretion, and thinks that when I say my arm is bruised because another guy (that I really don't get along with) hit me, my boyfriend thinks it's a good idea to try to punch my arm.

He never did any of this before we started dating. It seems as if me agreeing to be his girfriend gives him permission to treat me like crap, and I'm sick of it! I need to get away from him. the problem is, he's constantly saying that his life is terrible and he has considered suicide before. I don't want to hurt him too badly, but I need to be able to make it clear that I don't want to be in a relationship with him. What is the best way to do this?

[Silhouette]

Sometimes when we finally get into a relationship with someone, we stop doing what we did to try and get them. This seems to be the case here, now that he has you he doesn't seem to realize that he could loose you. Breaking up is your decision, but my opinion is it is a good idea because he is treating you poorly and you deserve better.
When you break up with him, you have to make sure that you are clear and straight to the point about it, but let him know that you just think its for the best. No matter what, breakups hurt. So there's not much you can do other than to just be polite about it and if you are feeling up to it, offer to be there for him as a friend.

[kite8k2]

From a guys perspective....Sounds like you are in high school still.

Tell her that you are no longer interested in him. He will from the sounds of it try to be the stalkerish type. This is when you will have one of many choices... Contact administration, parents, police, ect. You will have to enforce it because in the long run he will only hurt you more.

I am sorry to hear this
I dislike abusive relationships. I do hope you get better

[The Goblins Blade]

leave this guy, he sounds like a nasty peice of work and will only get more abusive in time. If he his doing all of that now, just think of what he might be doing further down the line.

[Skeleton]

I do agree that it's probably best to leave him if that's how he is going to be with you but as said, break-ups always hurt no matter how you go about doing it. The best thing you can do is be honest, tell him that you don't like how he is treating you since you became his girlfriend and that you want to break up and if you wish, tell him you'll be there for him as a friend if he needs it.

[dr2005]

Unfortunately as Nicole says break-ups will always be hard - there is no such thing as a gentle break-up from my experience - so all you can do is go about it in a clear and honest fashion. State what the issues are (and it's clear there are issues, sadly), give him a chance to reply but above all be firm and clear about what you want to do and what is in your best interests.

Hope that helps and take care.

[dancefever18]

That's horrible; I'm so sorry! Just tell him that it would be best if y'all were friends.