Male Advice Preferred: The timeless question: is he really busy, or is it something else

[Cairella]

Okay,

So this guy named Chet *(name has been changed) whom i've known for years now Told me about middle of September after we had had a nice phone conversation that he liked me. He told me he didn't want to pursue anything until we got to see each other more (we live in the same area but its hard to get around texas without a car in my area) So things were fine we continued to talk, then all of a sudden it dwindled, and dwindled went from every day to every other day, then down again. And now its just a hit or miss basis i could go days without hearing from him. so when we do talk he apologizes for being busy and last week was his bday and i asked him where are we going for your bday diner and he's like if you mean by me paying then yeah i'll buy you lunch/dinner.

so he's been wanting to read my fanfiction and every day he says hes gonna do it he's like i'm going to text you but if i don't just text me and remind me, and I do that no answer.

I know he has alot going on with his family and he'll usually tell me about it but now its like I feel like i'm getting thrown aside as a friend or i'm being taken forgranted.....


i don't know -.-

[Nicole!]

It sounds to me like he has lost interest. Not seeing you often for an extended period of time must have changed his feelings for you. Maybe try and plan a day that you two can hang out and then see where things go from there.

[Aletheia*]

Distance could be a hit or miss. Some people can go months without seeing their sig oth, but continue to have feelings for them. I have to endure this quite often, since my boyfriend serves in the military. Our time apart gives us space, and though we talk often, the distance only builds up to when we can see other again. For others, this same concept doesn't work well, espeically if those two people aren't in an official relationship.

As Nicole said, I think he's lost interest. Since you two don't spend time together, or see each other often, it's very common to lose interest.

[Cairella]

Okay so an Update! I feel slightly better now but he texted me today, he had mistakenly left his phone at his moms job. And he's been like super busy, he's trying his hardest to talk to me now even though he's breaking sheet rock (the garage caved at his house).