6 Months and no oral sex...

[psychoticbetty44]

Me and my boyfriend have a pretty solid relationship. The problem is, I always give him blow jobs and he hardly ever reciprocates. It's not like I'm super disgusting down there, I make sure the area is clear and not hairy (not to get all TMI). I mentioned it to him a month ago and he said we could do it sometime, but then he always offered when he knew I would say no (because of being on my period, etc.) Its just started making me feel really crappy because I always do it without asking, and I feel like I have to beg him to do it to me. That may sound stupid, but it almost feels like always showing someone you love them, and then having to beg for them to say it back I know some guys don't like it, but I don't particularly like giving blow jobs either...

But getting to the point. So yesterday, I mentioned it to him again. Not in an angry way, but just saying that I got frustrated that he never reciprocates. Then he got kind of quiet and was like "but i've offered.." (even though he didn't offer until I brought it up, and only offered twice when he knew I would be forced to say no because I was on my period). He *affectionate* the rest of the day, but got really quiet and I kind of got the vibe he was angry or upset or something. I guess I really just don't understand....

[Guile]

It kinda grosses me out as well, a lot of guys feel this way.

[Chair]

He doesn't feel comfortable going down there, so he's doing his best to avoid it without being an ass (he asks when he supposedly 'knows' you're on your period)

Don't like giving him blow jobs, don't give them. Also, just to be fair, you should always drive him, pay for his movie and dinner, buy him some expensive accessory that he'll only ever wear on your anniversary, give him your jacket when you're both wearing pretty much the same amount of clothes and are freezing your asses off, tell him that he's the most beautiful man in the world and that your life wouldn't mean anything without him, keep complimenting his parents if they ever invite you for some random dinner to get to know you better and all that, take him and his boys out and stay sober to drive each of them home... hmm what else... (I hope he's done at least one of those things, or he can go fuck himself.)

[The Goblins Blade]

Sounds like he doesent feel comfortable with it, give him time and he may change his mind.

[Lizzie]

In my opinion, just stop going down on him. He is being selfish and that’s not fair to you. Maybe eventually he will get a clue about the situation, but if not, then at least you aren’t wasting your time doing something he enjoys so much, when he doesn’t reciprocate.
If you don’t feel like doing such drastic things, like cutting him off completely. Why not just ask him when you two are fooling around? Sometimes you have to be really straight forward. And if he refuses then…. Then you know where you two stand on the issue.

[Aletheia*]

If he doesn't want to do it, or isn't comfortable with the idea, he isn't going to do it and there isn't anything you can do to change his mind. Pressuring him isn't going to help, and asking him to 'offer' to do it is only going to make it a turn off in his mind. You have to let him do things at his own pace, just like you take things at YOUR own pace.

I would talk to him and figure out WHY he doesn't seem so eager to return the favor. Don't accuse him of anything. Just get to the root of why he won't return oral sex though you do it for him all the time.

[LostAngels]

Every point everyone else has made is true. He obviously just doesn't feel comfortable with doing it, HOWEVER, I'm going to try and make a different point here and try to be as sensitive as possible considering this is a very touchy subject.

You need to be absolutely positive that you don't ever have any sort of odor down there when you're in a situation where things could go in that direction.
I personally run off to the washroom before my boyfriend and I head to the bedroom or start getting sensual, and literally do a quick wash....
Guys most likely won't break up with a girl for this reason, but it is definitely a reason for them to refrain from any kind of sexual activity.