Break Up: He Responded

[Algernon]

A friend of mine and I were talking today and we started talking about my ex. Read my previous thread, or you'll have no clue what's going on He told me that he's afraid that my ex's health is declining because he's depressed (because the breakup). He told me I should text him. I thought it was too early but I text him anyway following advice. I didn't think he would answer but he did...

"Hey, I have some things at your house that I need. How would you like me to go about getting them?"
"I have some of your clothes here, what else?"
"My straighteners, my certificate for school..."
"The big white envelope?"
"Yes."
"I know this is hard. I have some things to say to you. If you're okay with that."
"Holly, I'm not in the right frame of mind to listen right now. I'll get your belongings to you but that's as good as It's going to get for awhile."
"I understand. For now I just want to say I'm sorry and that I hope you get better soon. Can we talk eventually?"
"We'll see."
"So what's the plan for the belonging situation?"
"Do you need these things tonight?"
"Whatever good for you."
"Tomorrow round 2?"
"Ok. Your lunch break?"

Sorry for the long conversation. I just haven't talked to him and I'm paying close attention to what his words are saying. What do you think he's feeling or thinking right now? Mine all my friends and his family said that he would never talk to me again.

I'm supposed to go see him tomorrow to pick up my stuff... I'm not sure if it will be him or a friend that will bring my stuff out. How do I approach him?

Help? Do I have a change of rebuilding anything with him?

[Aletheia*]

I think there is a chance of something happening, just not right now. Obviously, your friend and your ex have made comments that he's not in the right state of mind right now to be thinking about anything. Right now, his first concern should be his health. Let him get back to a good state of mind, and make sure you let him know that you're there if he ever needs you. But, don't pressure him into talking until he's ready. I know it's difficult right now, but he needs to make himself better before he can try to do any talking about the relationship.

[Nicole!]

As he said, its going to take some time. There is a possibility of fixing it, but for now he is going to need some time to sort things through and move on. I think the best thing to do is wait for him to approach you.

[FillingWithHope]

As the above users, there could be a chance but i think he may just need sometime. Give him space and when hes ready he'll talk.

[leavemealone]

He seems to be a little down because he may still have feelings for you, but right now all he needs is time. Distance yourself, but not too much. Show him that if he ever needs to talk your still there and that just because your broken up doesn't mean that you two cant be friends anymore.

[dr2005]

As everyone else has said, you need to give this time and see what happens. It sucks in the meantime, I know, but all you can do is leave the door open and see how he chooses to respond to it. Forcing things will only end badly, of that I am quite sure. He sounds as if he may be willing to talk about things at a later date, but understandably he needs to get back on an even keel first - until then, make sure he knows you're there for him and take things as they come.

Hope that helps.