Disrespectful boyfriend?

[AliciaDawn]

I have been dating my boyfriend for 14 months. I am 16 and he is 19. We had sex 6 weeks into our relationship and it's been kind of hard since then. Of course we are in totally different parts of our lives and I understand that but I really wanna make this work. During the time of Valentines day I told him I might have feelings for an ex still, which I know really hurt him but he stayed with me. Before that he had started to become slightly disrespectful to my feelings and body. Summer started and it only got worse. He went on a vacation to Greece for a month and I was tired of being treated badly so I went for someone else. I told him what had happened a few days afterward, but he still stayed with me. (Nothing happened between me and the guy, btw.) Since he got back he has continued to be disrespectful to my emotions and my body on a daily basis. He has mostly become obnoxious like a little brother, though. Also, two days ago he dumped me because we got in a bad argument, he didn't even tell me. I found out from facebook. I am completely lost on what to do because I love him so much and we have grown together. We are not the typical older guy dating younger girl for sex couple either, it was my idea to do it. He does so many other nice things for me but in the end it's the bad things I'm looking at. I knew I wanted him after the incident when he went to Greece, but now I'm not so sure. Help?

[Chair]

Help with what? You say he's mean to you and your body, you cheat on him, then continue to say he's mean to you and your body and now he's left you. Kind of sad that you had to find out through facebook but... come on, if he can't even bring himself to tell you that he wants to break up he's not mature enough to be around. He's not going to change and this is the best situation you can be in right now. Just forget him. You're 16... or 15?! (says 15 on your profile) so you've got tons of time to experiment with other jerks. Would be better if you could pick someone closer to your age next time though, just because of legal issues and all.

[Tynan]

Like Chair said, Just find a different guy, If you don't like him being disrespectful towards you find someone more respectful.

[Aletheia*]

Sure, your boyfriend has been disrespectful to you, but you've also been disrespectful to him as well. Karma does go around. You cheated on him, so how else do you think he should have reacted. If you still have feelings for someone else, you shouldn't string someone else along because this is going to be the result of that. It's not fair to you to be in a relationship where you don't have strong feelings for that person, and it's not fair for your sig oth, since you're stringing them along.

Find a new guy. If you don't want him to be disrespectful, then find a guy who isn't.

[Nicole!]

I think its time to leave this relationship for good. You two have lots of problems and don't seem to be working them out. If he is disrespectful to you, then its time to find a better guy who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

[Chris.]

I think you both were wrong here. You tried to hurt him, yes, you did. By going to get another guy, and by telling him you had feelings for someone else (an ex). That hurts someone. So after that he got mad and started being rude and treating you bad. So both of you are to blame and I cant really pick a side here. If you really love him you wouldnt be treating him bad as well. However if he is treating you bad, and you feel that you are being nice and respectful towards him and not telling him stuff to get him mad, then I think you ought to move on. Dont stay with a guy that treats you like garbage. You are a human being and deserve to be respected - just remember to respect back as well.