First time in 3 years!

[Ella.x]

Yesterday a guy from work asked me out on a date. He txt me this morning asking if we could do something cheap/free coz he doesnt have much money atm so he's coming round my flat and we'll be having a couple of drinks and watching some films and just hanging out.
I have a few questions since the last time I had a boyfriend was 3 and a half years ago.
If I have sex with him tonight (not sure if it will happen, but it's a possibility) will that put him off?
How do I know whether he is actually interested in me or whether he's looking for a bit of fun? (I don't actually mind either way, but I'd like to know where I stand)
How the bloody hell am I supposed to act around him? I'm a complete lunatic and I don't want to scare him off too quickly

[Dream]

That's great.

I would say not to have sex right away, but if that is what you're looking for, then do it. Some guys would look down on that, but others obviously wouldn't. It just depends on the guy. You would need to talk to him to see what he is looking for unless he makes it obvious.

[Chair]

I'm not sure what you're hoping to get out of this, but it sounds like he just wants sex. I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with that, it's just something to have in mind when he comes over. See if you can try to have fun without having sex on your first encounter, who knows what he's actually like?

[Ella.x]

To be honest, I'm just looking for a bit of fun, anything extra is a bonus - I don't really expect blokes to want a relationship with me, so when they do it's a pleasant surprise. I'm just really nervous because I ususally just go for one night stands which include copiuous amounts of alcohol so this is going to be different.

Also - I have tons of scars all over my body, from my ankles to my knees, my upper thighs, my abdomen, and from my shoulders to my wrists - should I say something about them, or just pretend they don't exist and hope he doesn't freak out if he sees them?

[Le bonheur*]

Originally Posted by Ella.x

Also - I have tons of scars all over my body, from my ankles to my knees, my upper thighs, my abdomen, and from my shoulders to my wrists - should I say something about them, or just pretend they don't exist and hope he doesn't freak out if he sees them?

That's completely up to you. He could either accept them as scars of strength and a part of who you are or freak out about them. You said he's a guy from work, do you think you can trust him with that information?

By the way, congrats on getting a date. Good luck.

[Ella.x]

Originally Posted by believe.in.hope

That's completely up to you. He could either accept them as scars of strength and a part of who you are or freak out about them. You said he's a guy from work, do you think you can trust him with that information?

By the way, congrats on getting a date. Good luck.

It's only a christmas temp job, so I'm not fussed if it gets out or if people think I'm crazy. He doesn't seem like the type to gossip about stuff like that, but you never know. I hope he doesn't freak out about the scars

[Le bonheur*]

That's good that he doesn't seem like the gossip type and it's only a temp job. Maybe if you guys do get physical, you could just let him find them on his own. If he asks, then you should be honest. But if not, then he either didn't notice them or he doesn't mind them. I don't think he'll freak out. If he does, he's not worth it anyways.

[Nicole!]

Originally Posted by Ella.x

If I have sex with him tonight (not sure if it will happen, but it's a possibility) will that put him off?

None of us will be able to answer this accurately, it depends on the guy. If he wants to and goes along with it, then chances are it won't put him off. However, I don't recommend having sex on the first date.

Originally Posted by Ella.x

How do I know whether he is actually interested in me or whether he's looking for a bit of fun? (I don't actually mind either way, but I'd like to know where I stand)

Watch for body language and how he acts around you. There's nothing wrong with asking him either.

Originally Posted by Ella.x

How the bloody hell am I supposed to act around him? I'm a complete lunatic and I don't want to scare him off too quickly

Just be yourself and stay calm. Focus on having a good time rather then if you are doing all the right things. If he has agreed to hang out with you, then he does enjoy being around you. Don't change anything, act like you normally would.

Originally Posted by Ella.x

Also - I have tons of scars all over my body, from my ankles to my knees, my upper thighs, my abdomen, and from my shoulders to my wrists - should I say something about them, or just pretend they don't exist and hope he doesn't freak out if he sees them?

If you feel comfortable telling him about them and you trust him, then go ahead and mention it.