Problems with my ex...

[Koharuchan]

Okay, my ex and I have been broken up for over a year now. He still loves me. I've tried to remain his friend, and it's gone well, but he would start to flirt with me sometimes. I ignored it at first, but after a while I stressed to him that we weren't getting back together, so to please just move on. For a while I planned on remaining single. There was a boy I liked very very much, but my life was too hectic and I promised myself I would stay single until things were easier on me.

My life has gotten better now, and the boy I've liked for so long is now my boyfriend. I've never been happier, he's the best boyfriend I've ever had, but one thing nags at me. Shortly after I started dating my boyfriend, I was talking with my ex online, like usual. He started flirting, and I explained to him that I now have a boyfriend, so he needs to stop. I told him I've been trying to be his friend and that I still want to be his friend, but the flirting has to stop. He got very upset when he found out I'm dating again, and wanted to know why I didn't give him another chance. I told him that I had said before that we wouldn't start another relationship, but he says I never said that. I've known him for a long time, I've been his friend for 4 years. I really don't want him upset with me. I've tried going online to talk to him, but he never responds. I want to save my friendship with him, but how do I do that?

[Tynan]

Give him some time to heal. He is probably upset that he didn't get a second chance like he thought he might. So just give him some space and he will come back around once he sees that he still has a good friendship with you.

[Aletheia*]

He probably thought that flirting with you was going to make you see that you still wanted him.
Obviously, this is not the case.
You've since moved on, and are now back in the dating scene while he's still pining of you.
Right now, I think you should give him some time to heal by not speaking to him for a while.
If he tries to contact you, kindly log off or explain that you're busy.
Many people can jump into being friends, like you can, but remaining friends had given him the impression that you wanted to give him another chance.
The contact doesn't need to stop forever, just enough so that he can see that you don't want a relationship with him.

[Koharuchan]

I'd told him multiple times I wasn't interested in a relationship. After a while I told him I really wanted him to stop flirting because he needed to move on, but he didn't listen. There were many times when I logged off because he was flirting too much. It's been over a year, and I've tried to convince him to let me go because he's only hurting himself. I don't like seeing him hurt.

[Nicole!]

I think its best to step back and not speak to him for a bit so that he will realize that he needs to get over you. It doesn't mean you can't repair the friendship later, but continuing to talk to him and constantly tell him you have a boyfriend will keep hurting him. Its best to give him some space so that he can get over you. Theres nothing more you can do since you have been very clear that you two will not get back together.

[Chris.]

To be honest, you can force someone to loose feelings for you. You have to let go. The reason I say that is because If you care about him, you wouldnt want to hurt him and thats actually what you are doing. By sticking around you are not allowing him to heal right. He will never get over his feelings for you if you stay around him and keep trying to talk to him. That will only make him have more feelings for him. If you care about him, just move on. Im NOT saying that you cant have a freindship in the future. But take a break, let him heal, and let him live his own life like you are doing.