What would be your 'condtions' to getting back together with a cheating partner?

[Tigerrr]

I know alot of you would reply to this saying you wouldnt get back with a partner who has cheated on you. But lets just say you for some reason you did. What would you expect from your partner, what would the 'rules' be? What would he/she have to do for you to be able to carry on a relationship with him/her? What would you ask for from them and NEED them to do? Like, conditions on getting back together.

[Le bonheur*]

IF I was to get back with a cheating partner, I wouldn't be able to trust them so I'd make sure they understood that. I guess I wouldn't have many 'rules' the big one would be to not cheat again. But I'm a firm believer in 'once a cheater, always a cheater' so yeah..

[Amberpamber]

To be open and honest, and if he's been known to hang around certain people that caused him to be unfaithful I would ask that he stop hanging around them if he really loved me and wanted us to work out. It may seem like your kinda sticking your nose to much in his life but if he's had a history of cheating you have the right (I feel) to make sure he's doing what he claims too and isnt using that as a coverup.

[Nicole!]

He would have to be completely honest with me for everything. It would be really hard for me to trust him again, which is why I would never get back together with a cheater.

[Skeleton]

I wouldn't but if for some reason I decided to, I wouldn't trust them and I'd want them to know that but I wouldn't really have any rules because even though they cheated, I don't want to make it seem like they can't do anything now. I think the only thing I'd ask of them is that they don't contact the person they cheated on me with because if they did it once, they might do it again and as I wouldn't trust them, I couldn't handle that.

[Aletheia*]

My conditions would be:
1. Understand my lack of trust in them. If they don't, bye bye.
2. Have no contact with that person, ever.
3. Tell me EVERYTHING.

[FillingWithHope]

I agree with almost everybody above, they have to know that it will take me a while to get the trust back, they have to be open and honest with me even if they don't want to, i do not want them having any contact with this person and he has to prove to me that he will never do this again and he wants me.

[witchita]

If you get back with a cheating partner, show them that you as an individual are strong and that you can stand on your own two feet. If they do cheat on you again (which if they ever do then they're a fool) remember that it is their loss and you have your whole life a head of you to find 'The One'.

Good luck, I hope everything works out for you

[Iris. ♥]

If I were to get back with a cheater, they would have to understand that I don't trust them. They would also have to be open and honest with me about EVERYTHING. Honestly, I'm not even sure if I'd be able to believe that they were being honest. Once my trust breaks, it's hard to get back. That's why I'll never get back with the guy who cheated on me.

[dr2005]

If - and it is a very big "if" - I was to get back with a cheating partner, it would be on the following basis:

1) A sincere apology would be a good starting point, and it'd be made pretty clear if they cheat again it's game over. No ifs, no buts. I believe in second chances, but not third ones.

2) Trust would be right back to square one, and they would have to work damn hard to regain it and not just assume that things will pick up from where they left off. If they can't accept that, again it's game over.

3) No contact with the person they cheated with, for fairly obvious reasons. Likewise, game over if they can't accept that because it suggests they don't understand what they've done.

Sounds a bit strict, but trust is a big deal for me.

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

He would need to cut that person out of his life, tell me everything, & I would probably not allow him to hang out with many girls, to be honest.

[Come get some]

my conditions would be never

[ShimmeringFaerie]

If I were to get back with a cheating partner, I wouldn't put any conditions on the relationship that weren't there to begin with. I wouldn't give them "rules" that they had to follow because they are not my child, they are my partner, and deserve to be treated as an equal. Honestly, if you are getting back together with someone, then you need to have completely forgiven them for cheating or else the relationship will definitely fail. And if you feel the need to put conditions on the relationship, then it doesn't seem like you have forgiven them at all.


Just to clarify, there are obviously general "rules" or "conditions" that each partner should follow in a relationship (eg. no physical violence, no emotional abuse etc.). But if one person has to follow "rules" that the other person puts in place for them, then that is not a fair relationship.

[leavemealone]

If I were to get back together with someone who cheated on me, I would have to be 100% sure that he would never do it again. It would also take a very long time for me to feel comfortable around him again and be able to gain full trust and respect towards him.

Also, I would have to keep an extra close eye on him, because once a cheater always a cheater. In real life though, I would never get back with someone who cheated on me. Its disgusting, and I don't understand why people do that.