His Family hates me. Terrified about the holidays

[PointeStarr]

My boyfriend and me are very serious. We're planning on moving in together this summer and he did ask me to marry him But we aren't publicizing our engagement yet because there are some family issues we are trying to smooth over first because my family doesnt like him very much, but they are coming around.

The real problem is his Grandma, which is who he lives with, hates my guts. And because she is the leading opinion of his family, when ever I am at his house and she is there the rest of his family acts rather rudely towards me, even though when she is not around his family is extremely nice to me.
He invited me to Christmas Eve with his family. which is potentially problematic because my moms side of the family also celebrates on christmas eve but we celebrate over an hour away from the town we live in. But we are figuring out a way to go to both. However everything I say over there is wrong and upsets his Grandma. She asked me if I was taking the train back to school and I said "no, not this time. I'm getting a ride with a friend" and apparently that was rude and disrespectful. I have a ring that I have worn on my left hand ring finger every day for years and will continue to wear until my boyfriend replaces it, and she saw me wearing it and freaked out. And everything I wear I either look like white-trash or a skank according to her.

I'm seriously terrified to go to his house for christmas. What should/can I do to avoid upsetting his Grandma on the holiday? and get her to slightly approve of me living and breathing in the same general area as her grandson so me and him can officially say we are engaged?

[Chris.]

Well I think that maybe you should avoid grandma alittle. Thats really all you can do. And if you do come in contact, be super nice! Nothing will piss someone off even more than having someone they hate being nice to them.

Be polite, but stay away from her as much as possible. Once you guys move in together than nothing really matters and nothing his grandma can say should really upset you. I would just block her rude comments out as much as possible. There is always someone on each side of a family that doesn't like a boyfriend or husband / girlfriend or wife - this time it looks like its grandma - try to make the best of the time you have to bond with his family. Don't let her get to you!

Best wishes,
Chris