I honestly don't know what to do anymore.

[Neonkittens]

I have no where else to go with this- I feel like I can't even talk to my friends about it. Okay so my ex boyfriend and I have been on and off for about four months. I love him with all my heart. A couple of my friends have also dated him but I dated him before they did. He's known as kind of a player.. My friends hate him. I've tried talking to my friend that I tell everything to about this but she got mad because she hates him because he has hurt me before. Well my ex and I have recently started talking again. We've been texting everyday. He told me he wanted me back and he loves me but he didn't want to hurt me again. And I told him that I love him but idk what to do. So he asked me If I wanted to date again. I said yes but I don't know if I can do it. It was the hardest thing I'd ever had to say, I was crying while telling him this. So he suggested that we just stay friends if we cant date. And I agreed. Before we dated he were best friends so I figured we could make it work. Well now I wanna date him so bad, I miss him so much! And every time we talk I'm so tempted to tell him that I love him.. I was thinking maybe we could date again but I couldn't tell my friends. Only one of my closest friends that I trust most. If my friends found out I was dating him again they would get so mad at me. They just don't want me getting hurt. But I love him and he makes me happy. I just don't know what to do anymore. Please help

[Winston1994]

I know the feeling of having nowhere else to go, Neonkittens. It hurts, and it makes you feel so hopeless that you just don't know what to do with yourself. This whole thing hinges on how he hurt you before. He could just be making empty promises when he says that he won't hurt you again, and he might just be trying to use you. If he's known as a player, what I just said probably is true. Here's a question: have you actually physically TALKED to him, or has it just been via text? Because seeing him would make all the difference in the world. And let me just tell you this now...the whole staying friends thing does not work. Trust my own experience in this. It turns into something you don't want it to be. And the kicker? If you do go out with him again, you'll most likely lose a lot of your friends. And if he hurts you again...? You'll have no friends (good ones, at least) to back you up.

[Neonkittens]

Thanks Windston1994.. I know that a lot of it's true, I just don't want to admit it. I just don't really know how to get over him and stop talking to him.. We used to talk every single day but ten we stopped and now we text a lot too.. I finally got used to not talking all of the time anymore, it broke my heart but I got used to it,. I just can't image no contact with him whatsoever. It's not always via text sometimes we see each other but he is one grade ahead of me so we really don't see each other in school and that is really the only time we could talk.. He has a really close new friend who is a girl and that also breaks my heart cuz i wish it was me.. We were talking till 2 in the morning last night.. I'm gonna miss all our conversations... But how do I tell him?

[Winston1994]

It seems like you two don't get a lot of face-to-face interaction, which makes things harder for you. If this new friend he has is in his same grade, it might make things difficult. I speak from experience when I say that breakups are very hard. Seems obvious, I know, but I mean VERY hard. After my ex dumped me and told me that she was only going out with me for the past school year because she didn't want to be lonely, I cried myself to sleep every night for two months or so and wondered why on Earth someone who I thought I loved would do this to me. But now, I'm over her, she just admitted what she did wrong yesterday, and I have a new girl in my life that I liked more than I ever liked the old one. So there's always hope after you move on

[Neonkittens]

Thanks again, Winston1994. I appreciate all of your help. And I'm not really sure if the girl that he's friends with is in the same grade as him or not.. I think she lives In a different state.

[Winston1994]

A different state? Whoa. That's a major plus for you, but it also means that he is under the impression that he can hold a relationship that's intrastate, which is NOT gonna happen. Probably not, anyways.