Has any guy used a girl for sex or have you seen it?

[youllneverknow]

if you see you have a nice girl whos willing to be with you and you known her since 2003 why use her for sex...i regret laying down with you. has any guy used a girl for sex and they known each other for a good period of time and ended up trying to use her just for that and out of all those years just one year that just became a problem? why would you try to be a hoe like your friends lol ?has any guy regret it once the girl stop talking to him? sex isn't everything and many guys claim they don't have feelings but this guy keeps trying to come back I'm not a hoe sorry..many guys are hoes outside but they love the person on the inside.

[Aletheia*]

I've never seen this happen to myself, or any of my friends. It sounds like this guy is a jerk, and you should kick him to the curb where he belongs.

[Skeleton]

I've seen a guy do it, he wasn't interested in the girl and she was interested in him, he kept saying no but eventually decided to have sex with anyway because he knew he could. I thought it was really horrible of him to do, especially with how he was treating her beforehand by telling her he was gay and things instead of straight out saying he wasn't interested in her.

I think it's horrible and if any guy does it to you, you should tell them where to go because you don't need guys like that in your life.

[Raining Glitter]

I just answered your other thread, so most of your questions are answered there.

But-have I seen it?

Yes. Kinda a lot. When it's with friends and douche bag boyfriends/girlfriends, and with myself. I was really good friends with this one guy who is sweeter than sugar. He seemed all innocent and ect. I mean he doesn't have a perverted mind at all. He was emotionally scarred when he saw how Americans danced (he was an exchange student). Yet he wanted to "fool around with me" while also "being allowed to fool around with other girls." He kinda explain it when I asked him what the fuck he was thinking later on, but none of it makes sense. He said he didn't want to hurt me by getting into a relationship because he was in a long distant relationship before and it sucked when they broke up. I mean slightly understandable, but not really because being friends with benefits would be the exact same thing if we had feelings for each other. Whatever.

With my friends, well there's too many situations. I had a friend who was in an abusive relationship. I had another friend who was trying to date a player who had too many personal problems and irresponsibly took it out sexually on women. Another girl I know was dating a complete douch tool. I mean there's probably more deeper reasons behind it, but honey, honestly it's not worth stressing over about. I've been stressing over "why, why, why?" and I think I might never find a proper answer. It doesn't matter why he did it, but the fact he did it. Trying to use someone for sex takes it to a whole new personally level where the victim can get deeply hurt. When it's like that, the reasons really don't matter, just the action itself, since it's a bad situation no matter what.


You might never find out the answers you want. Just know the guy acted like a douche towards you. You deserve better treatment and you WILL find another guy who can properly give it to you. I know it's hard and I'm still trying to heal from the dickhead who tried to do the same thing to me. If you want to talk about it, you can pm me ANYTIME. I'd love to hear you rant about it

Cheer up. You are an intelligent and beatiful young lady that deserved better treatment. Please don't blame yourself at all. I know I've been doing it, because well I don't understand why my guyfriend would do that. But blaming yourself, definitely when it is not your fault, helps no one. It just shows a false reality of the reasons and also isn't healthy for you. You are wonderful and you will find a better guy out there. Just keep looking.

[Pale]

Meh i've used girls for sex, not in a relationship though. I wouldn't do that.

[Koharuchan]

My first ever boyfriend attempted this. I was with him for 1 month, and he wanted to have sex but I didn't. Then he got upset and said "So I wasted this whole month dating you and I'm not gonna get sex out of it?"

Jackass.

[Work_In_Progress]

I've had some friend with benefits relationships before, sometimes it was a mutual understanding, sometimes it was more of an infatuation on my part or hers and someone would end up hurt. I haven't ever had a friends with benefits without directly stating my intentions, rather than calling it a relationship and using them for sex. Using each other for sex, the idea was still there but it was accepted by both parties.

[Nicole!]

I was used for sex. I didn't know him that long either, and I lost my virginity to him. Do I regret it? Not necessarily. One I figured out he didn't want a relationship, I told him I didn't want to hang out anymore. I'm glad I did too, because I found my current boyfriend, who is a lot better. If you get used for sex, it really is best to just end it.

[Chris.]

I have seen it - and see it very often. I see it go both ways - guys using girls for sex (acting like they want a relationship) and girls doing the same thing back. Its sad at some points - but I cant say to much against it due to me being involved in a few transactions (using, and being used - but not to a extreme extent by anymeans).

[msfsteven]

i had a friend with benefits if that counts.. if it does then yea

[jake_black7]

Originally Posted by Koharuchan

My first ever boyfriend attempted this. I was with him for 1 month, and he wanted to have sex but I didn't. Then he got upset and said "So I wasted this whole month dating you and I'm not gonna get sex out of it?"

Jackass.

That is horrible. The way I see it, why waste what could be a lifetime of happiness on a few minutes of pleasure?