did i screw up?

[whoosah2375]

So i met this girl online, we've never met in person. We have a lot in common, we talked for a few hours. she gave me her number, we texted a couple of conversations, flirting, getting to know eachother. last we talked was a couple of days ago and i said i was busy, id call her later, goodnight. today i decided to call her she didn't pick up. about 40 minutes after i called she texted me " Hi did you call?" i messaged her back saying "yea. you alright to talk?" she never responded. i want to hear her voice and speak to her on the phone before i meet her in person. I'd rather ask her out on the phone than text. plus i dont like texting. i'm not sure if i pressured her or sounded creepy and screwed up.

[Fickle Iris]

I'm like that too if I'm going to ask someone out I'd much rather being able to hear their voice than get confused by plain text.

Im not sure Why she didn't respond- she asked if you had called, which means she was probably looking foreword to it, but that's weird :/ maybe she just got busy? She also might have ignored it if she wasn't sure it was you- text her again right before you call, to see if she's avaliable.

If you decide to meet in person, use extreme caution-meeting people you met online is dangerous, you need to be 100% sure that this girl is safe to be around before you think about meeting in person! I personally had a really bad experience with a guy I met online- on Neopets of all places, how bad is that? it was really scary, and I really don't want you to go through anything like that

Good luck though! She sounds very nice- and like I said, she probably just got really busy, it is still holiday time I suppose.

Happy new year, keep looking up!
~Nessa

[glaceon]

I would wait a while. Her phone may have ran out of battery or something else beyond her control could have happened. Or maybe she forgot about her phone! Sometimes I get distracted and forget my phone even exists. Maybe she's the same way.
If she doesn't reply in quite a while then just send her a casual text in a few days, like, "hey how's it going?"
Chances are you are over thinking it. I do that all the time (:

[Aletheia*]

She may have been busy & just forgot to text you back. I'd try calling her again in a little while if you still haven't gotten a proper response from her yet. I don't think you've creeped her out or anything. It's not like you're constantly calling or texting her. So, I'm sure there is an explanation as to why she hasn't responded yet.

[whoosah2375]

i shouldve mentioned i said to her that "id rather hear her voice than text." Should i just text her today with something, as kind of a restart?

[Aletheia*]

That doesn't sound half as bad as you think. Since you've never met, it could make her see some red flags, but don't worry about it. Just send a simple text message like "Hey, what's up?" or "How are you?". Don't over do. If you text and text and text and she doesn't respond, she may get upset and just continue to blow you off. If she doesn't respond, just let it be until she decides to respond back.

[leavemealone]

She might be just nervous, but I don't understand why she wouldn't pick up, or respond to your text. Personally, I don't like talking on the phone, but in a situation like this I would. You wouldn't want to meet someone who you haven't first at least talked to on the phone. She might just feel more comfortable talking over text message. When you meet her, talk to her about it; I'm sure she'll understand that its important to you and she'll maybe even start liking talking on the phone.

[whoosah2375]

well i guess i did screw up lol ive seen her online. its been 2 days no response. there's nothing else i can do.

[_sunsets64.]

Not to be completely paranoid or creepy, but what if it's like Vanessa's story? What if she's not answering because she's not really a she? Maybe you're not talking to who you think you are, and this is some predator online and they don't want you to hear their voice? I know it sounds paranoid and like something a mom would say, but you never know...

Whatever happened, though, I'm sorry she isn't responding and that you're so unsure of everything and waiting for her to text you back. Don't beat yourself up, though--you didn't screw up, it was completely reasonable to call. Actually, I like when guys talk to me on the phone So don't worry about what you did, because you did nothing wrong.
I hope you feel better!