We're Crazy About Each Other....But She Has a BF o.O

[Zentman J]

We've liked each other for about 2 months now. She's been holding back because she has a boyfriend. Me and him are best buds, so I wouldn't want him to break it off for the world of me. It's gotten harder for us though, the past couple weeks. Me with my foot fetish, and she allowed me to go crazy on her feet (Nothing sexual, just pleasure on my part. Licky Licky, Yummy Yummy, That's all I'll say) and her BF (Knowing about this thing with meh) was ok with it. And after that, it's been hard on both me and her. We bonded a little harder that day, and it is driving us both insane. She doesn't want to break up with her current BF, and it's basically hell for both of us.
Suggestions? Any way we can get around this or maybe something to help with coping with all of this?

[Nicole!]

Well who does she have more feelings for? Some people say if you like two people, go with the second because if you truly loved the first you wouldn't have feelings for anyone else. I'm not saying to go make her break up with her boyfriend though, the fact that he is your best friend makes this tricky.
It might be best to back off for awhile. Which would you rather have, a friendship with her and your best friend, or a relationship with her and an ex-best friend? If you don't talk to her as much, it may help the feelings to go away, rather than if you are always talking and bonding. Its never a good idea to go for someone with a boyfriend. Try and find another girl to like, but don't force it just to get over her, it most likely won't work.

[Zentman J]

Easier said then done. Me and her have been besties probably as long as me and her BF have. I've gone through getting over people so many times, it's not even funny...it's almost depressing on how much time I've spent in my room listening to my Death Cab record in deep thought about how I need the feelings to go away. Lol, that's depressing right there...hehe..
Anyway, yeah. I can't really just give her up like the others. She actually likes me back. It makes it a million times harder. I've never experienced this kind of situation and I don't know if I can face it. It's not fair. It's evil how this happens to me in a way. Always me, never them. The lucky ones are always other people. I find someone, and I get a &%#$ upon my head..

Sorry if I went on a little rant there. Needed to let that out. But yeah. This is gonna be tough if that's what it's gonna come down to..... ;/

[Nicole!]

No worries about rants, its good to get it out
I understand that this must be very tough, and I'm sorry you have to go through this. I'm not saying you have to completely stop hanging out with her, but just start to tone it down a bit and see if that improves things at all.
If you have been flirting at all, I would also try and catch when you're doing it and try and stop. Its going to take awhile, but it would be worse to destroy your friendship with your best friend.

[Aletheia*]

Hey there!

Rants are fine; sometimes we just need to get things out.

Obviously, you know nothing can happen right now considering she's in a relationship...with your best friend. Think how he'd feel if he found out about this? You're seriously risking your friendship with him by doing this. If she isn't happy in her relationship, she needs to figure that on her own. I would try to stay away from flirting with her. Yes, much easier said than done, but think about it this way: You wouldn't like it very much if your best friend was hitting on YOUR girlfriend. So, think about it from both of their perspectives. She needs to figure out what's going on with herself, and her feelings and you need to figure out if this girl is really worth losing a friendship over.