Single & Unhappy?

[XxemilyxX]

Hello, first post here.
I have dated a few guys. Eventually all of them either leave or we break up. Anyways I have been single since about June. I am a very attractive young woman & I am very intelligent.
It just seems like I won't ever find the right guy. And I am exhausted of going through little 1 2 and 3 month relationships. For some odd reason I feel lonely and unhappy being single. I just love the company and always having someone there.. I enjoy life. I just feel like ill never find the right guy.
Advice?

[whoosah2375]

hey, i know how you feel i cant find the right girl either. we should totally get together lol, jk. My advice (it says your 18), you're young, you're attractive, don't worry. Girls have it easier, usually the guy initiates contact, so i'm sure someone will want to be with you. go out make yourself seen, smile, don't sit at home and sob about it. don't act desperate either, people can sense it and its a turn off. good luck! i'm 100% sure you'll meet someone.

[Yorehl]

Take this alone time to learn more about yourself. Think about what you really want. Just be yourself and eventually life will happen. I promise, you'll find someone soon.

[MadPoet]

Well, in my personal opinion, I think that before anyone can be in a happy relationship, first they have to be at least somewhat happy and content with being single. The problem is that often times people rely on relationships too much to make them happy, and in relationships they never feel as if they are getting what they want or what they expect, because they are relying solely on the relationship to be happy.

I'm not saying this is what's going on in your situation, because I don't know that much about you. But I think that you should try not to look at being single as such a bad thing. Actually, being single can help you prepare for a better relationship once you find one. You can figure out exactly what you want during this time, and you can benefit yourself and your relationships by learning to be happy without someone in your life.

Love isn't like it is in the movies, sometimes it takes time and difficulty to find the right person. But I think that there's someone out there for all of us, and you'll find them eventually Just try to be patient and happy regardless.

[heather_tate19]

Hi there!

I would like to tell you that I have felt the same way. I see myself as a bright, beautiful young woman, and I felt that I would never be in a relationship. I am currently a junior in college and haven't had a boyfriend since my freshmen year of high school. (that's a little over 5 years w/o a boyfriend!)

The only advice I really have is to be patient, focus on school/some activity you love and sooner or later someone will find you interesting for who you are (aka a potential Mr. Right?) and you will most likely be doing that activity you love when they find you.

Also, remember that you are only 18, and you don't need to find someone right away, you have your WHOLE LIFE in front of you and you should do things that you can only really do when you are single.

I only recently found out that a graduate student is interested in me. He found me when I was giving a presentation about my research project, which is what I love to do. He is older, more intelligent and is interested in the same area that I am- which is what I wanted in a boyfriend, but it took me a long time to find him and I'm glad he found me through something we were both interested in (but I'm not sure where this will go yet).

[Chris.]

Unfortunatly this is sometimes how life is. The only thing i can recommend is you just keep trying - because you are atleast dating people and being socially active and this is what will lead you places relationship wise. EVERYONE will have short and failed relationships - and you just happen to have alot of them at a younger age. This is a trail and error process. The thing is - don't look for someone to love. Don't focus on who's boyfriend material and who's not. The best thing to do is that you just keep dating and let life come to you - don't force love, and don't try to fly through the relationships. Love everyone like it may be the one - and if it doesn't work out then you move on to someone else.

I'm here if you ever need to vent or anything.



Best wishes,
Chris