Boyfriend confides in a girl I have issues with...

[PaleBlueShine]

So I had this "friend" Ashley who stabbed in the back a month or so back. So bad that I decided to no connection to her whatsoever anymore. One of the reasons I don't like her also is at one point she was interested in my boyfriend before we were together. I let it go, but was hurt because she never told me and I confided in her about a lot of things. I never mentioned it to her and went on still being "friends" with her.

So the other day my boyfriend and I had some problems and we got into a argument that he wasn't sure we were going to stay together. I go home just to take a shower and get ready and he's already going to go grocery shopping. And Ashley is the one taking him to the store? When him and I are having problems. He didn't want to talk to me even though I offered to come take him. I felt really hurt by him going and spending time with someone I have huge issues with when we are having problems. He told her about what was going on and It's wasn't any of her business.

Then later on when we get to talk, I come back into his room and an hour later he gets a text from her. "So what's going on?" And he said, "I asked her to come back." To which she replied "Why?" And he said, "Because I love her." And all she text back was "Ok."

I feel like there's a vendetta behind all this. He says that she just wants us to have a happy relationship, which we do 90% of the time. But if she really felt that way then she wouldn't have asked WHY he asked me to come back.

I'm not worried about her. I'm sorry to say this and I know It's mean. But nothing will ever happen between them because she has an STD.

I feel like he has this... Emotional relationship with her even though I have huge problems with her. All my friends are supposed to have dinner tonight and she's going to be there. I text him "Babe, I know you and Ashley are friends. But will you do me a favor and never talk to her about us again. It hurt my feelings a lot." And he said ok.

How should I feel and what should I do??? I still don't feel at ease about this situation.

[Aletheia*]

You had every right to ask him to keep your personal business between the two of you. Sometimes, we just need to talk things out but since you're not comfortable with the whole idea, you had every right to ask him to keep your business between the two of you and leave her out of it.

I wouldn't tell him to STOP talking to her completely, however. Trying to keep him away from the friendship will actually make him want to confide in her more, or talk to her more than he does. It wouldn't end up in your favor, and it wouldn't be fair to him.

Just act normally; don't show Ashley that she's bothered you in this way. I'm sure she expected a break up to be in your midst, which is why she asked "Why?" to him saying he asked you to come back. This isn't necessarily her fault, as your boyfriend is the one who confided in her, and probably said some things he didn't mean.

Ultimately, you'll need to talk to your boyfriend. Communication is #1, so let him know that what he did bothered you. Talk about this privately, and make sure you both are making an effort to make things work out.

Take care and good luck!